Being happy. It’s probably the most important thing in life. But still not everyone knows how to become happy. In my opinion we should have been thought this in school. Luckily for us positive psychology scientists have discovered a few things about being happy.
In this video I am going to show you 7 habits of happy people! If you really want to experience a happy life you can’t wait for happiness to magically appear to you. You have to get up and take action to make it happen. Being happy and staying happy is a proactive decision.
They practice acts of kindness.
In your everyday life. Look for small ways where you can show kindness to the people you meet. It’s easy to do this to the people you know and are in your social circle, But try to extend your kindness to people you don’t know so well. The mailman, the store clerk or just a random passerby. I recommend paying for someone’s food in the drive through window behind you, just ask the cashier to pay for the person behind you’s food.
These acts can be really simple things like a friendly smile or a kind word or you can pay someones sandwich or leave a letter in the train for someone you do not know. You can be as creative as you want. The more you will do it, The more fulfilling it becomes. So think about the ways you can be kind to others in day to day life. Right it down in your journal and start acting on these ideas every day. I challenge you to leave a comment of something you’ve done in the past week like this, or someone who has done it for you.
They nurture their relationships.
There was a study done where researchers asked people on their deathbed what their regrets were. The biggest regret for most people was that they wish they had spent more time with the people whom they love. Relationships are so important in our lives, and are the foundation for how we think and act. But relationships do require time and care. They also require communicating and resolving conflict and showing vulnerability to those people. If you spend a lot of time with your loved once you won’t regret it, I suggest reading Daniel Goleman’s book Emotional Intelligence, or watching my video summary of it.
So make it a habit to contact your loved ones more frequently. If you would like to see someone more in your life, make it a priority to contact this person more often or contact someone from your past you would like to see again. Snapchat that old friend, Facebook that lost uncle, Twitter your new nephew.
They are grateful
There is so much to be grateful for still it is really easy to forget these things when we are rushing through our daily lives. Luckily it is also really easy to practice thankfulness.
Look at the circumstances that you enjoy in your life. Keep a gratitude journal where you write down the things that you are thankful for every day. You having a warm bed, someone telling you a fascinating story, the sun that is shining or your ability to see. Check out my video “why I never get angry” for a pretty cool list and read the comments for even more things to be grateful for!
They are optimistic
Do you see the glass half empty or half full? Or even better do you notice that there is a glass at all!
It’s a tough life when you are always negative, it’s tough to be friends with someone who is negative as well. If you want to cultivate optimism, begin by becoming aware of how many negative thoughts and words you have everyday. Start replacing these thoughts and words by positive and uplifting words. It might feel a bit forced at first but the more you do it the easier it becomes. Affirmations are immensely helpful in developing a happy mindset. Remember that there is a silver lining in every situation.
They practice forgiveness
Happy people know how to forgive others and themselves. Be the bigger person. Make up your mind to forgive the other person. Realize that they did what they thought was right otherwise they would have done something differently. Forgiving others will give you much more ease and pleasure in life. You don’t even have to forgive them for their sake, do it for your own, so your heart and mind won’t be filled with bitterness and content. You can’t grow if you’re holding a grudge. Forgiving yourself is probably even more critical than forgiving other people. Acknowledge that the things you did where the things you thought that were the best at the time. So when you made a mistake it’s not something that you did on purpose it just had to happen so that you can learn from it. You can even write a letter of forgiveness to yourself.
Another good way to practice forgiveness is to close your eyes and wish the best for the person that you want to forgive and of course wish the best for yourself. This will put your mind in a face of goodwill for the other person and yourself. I struggled with not forgiving a high school friend until a couple months ago. I forgave him, and the next time I saw him, he was a completely different person, but the thing was, he didn’t change, just my perspective did.
They take care of their body
Your health has a great impact on your happiness. When you are out of shape it’s harder to live life to the fullest. There are many studies that show us that people who exercise feel better mentally and psychically. If you are not already exercising. You can start small. Make a morning walk for 10 minutes in the park. Or eat one more vegetable in your daily dish. When you start to do this you will eventually feel what this does for you and you will probably want to do it even more. Exercising will also help you sleep better, which can lead to happiness as well.
Avoid comparisons and over-thinking.
Do you sometimes look at someone and feel jealous? That person has something that you would like to have. Comparing yourself to something is really a toxic thing to do and it’s not going to help you on your way to happiness. When you are comparing yourself with others you are measuring your self worth to the standards of someone else, instead measure yourself by your own personal standards. Remind yourself of these habits and start practicing them. Your happiness has nothing to do with how good looking your neighbor is or how much money your friends are making. When you feel yourself having thoughts like this. Go do something uplifting like exercise or working on your dreams.
I hope these 7 habits and methods will help you achieve a happy state of mind much faster.