Dating is always tricky but when you graduate college, it becomes a whole new ballgame. You are no longer surrounded by thousands of eligible, age appropriate partners. In college you were constantly put into close proximity situations with dozens of young adults. Dating was a breeze– you just had to choose one of the many suitors available. However, when you left school and entered the workforce, the dating pool surrounding you became infinitely small. Don’t worry, this is normal. It is just time for you to adjust, re-calibrate and try a new approach.
- Pursue Activities
Remember all the things you used to put off because you were too busy with classes and work? Now is the time to push all your excuses aside and pursue anything that interests you. This can be anything from going to the gym regularly to joining a weekly book club. This way you will be enriching your life and putting yourself in situations where you could meet people who have the same interests as you.
- Download an App
It is time to download the apps you have probably always hated. This is the way the new dating world works. The first app of its kind, Tinder, is a classic. Once two people match with each one another, either of them can send a message to the other. Fair warning– this app has become more of a hookup app than dating. An app that is more geared towards dating is Bumble. Only females can message males first and they have to do so in the first 24 hours of matching. Acclaimed comedian and actress Amy Schumer met her boyfriend of one year on Bumble.
- Make the move.
Throw all gender roles out the window. At this point you cannot afford to beat around the bush. You don’t know if you’ll see that cute guy at the bar ever again. You don’t know if you’ll see that pretty girl in the coffee shop again. Unlike in college, it is not likely you will see each other again. Go talk to them! The worst thing that can happen is they won’t feel the same way. But, chances are you will never see them again so who cares?
- Let people set you up.
Most people in college don’t want to go on blind dates because they feel they have other options. This is understandable for when you’re surrounded by thousands of eligible singles. But I am telling you now, once you join the real world, it is okay to be set up by your mother, aunt, friends, coworkers and anyone else who knows you. The advantage of getting set up by someone rather than meeting a stranger yourself is that the mutual party will be able to tell you things about the other person. It is also a safer way to date as both parties know someone else knows they were going on a date.
- Try solo activities.
Stop looking. This may seem like it contradicts everything above but it is in fact the key to finding a significant other. Take this newfound freedom from your college workload and work on yourself. You are never going to be happy in a relationship with someone else if you can’t be happy with yourself. No one in a new relationship wants to become the center of the other person’s life.