In the last decade or so, the idea of the Law of Attraction has become pretty mainstream. You’ve probably heard of it by now, and maybe someone even recommended that you read or watch The Secret. If you haven’t heard of the Law of Attraction or could use a refresher, no worries—we’ll be going over all the basics today, starting with what it is.
The Law of Attraction is said to be a force that is at work at all times, attracting the things we focus on into our lives. Essentially, it boils down to “like attracts like.” That means that if you have a positive mindset, you attract good things into your life, and if you have a negative one, it’s less favourable things that you attract. Every area of our lives, including our careers, relationships, health, and finances, is affected by the Law of Attraction.
Proponents of the philosophy say that, because it’s our attention that determines what our lives are like, we can attract the things we want if we can manage where our attention lies. The key is to shift our focus, keeping it on the things that we want and away from the things we don’t. It can be difficult to do, but there are a few commonly used techniques to help anyone do it.
One of the simplest and most popular techniques is the use of a vision board. The first step is, of course, to make your vision board. Make a list of the things you want—they could be material objects, a particular job, a loving relationship, a state of being, anything at all. Once you’ve clearly defined what you want, collect images that reflect the things on your list and assemble them into a collage. You can also include words or phrases if they help express your goals. You can assemble them any way you like, but it’s a good idea to use something like a cork board so you can add and remove images as time goes on.
When you feel good about how your board looks, hang it up somewhere you’ll see it a lot. Its purpose is to act as a reminder of where your focus should be so having it in clear view is important. Now, every time you see your board, take a minute to think of the things on it and imagine how it would feel to already have all of those things. Feel happy, feel excited, feel grateful. Deciding on what you want to have formed an intention, but the emotion tied to the intention is a huge part of attracting what you want. Placing your focus without putting any energy behind it leaves it basically dead in the water.
Affirmations are another way to help you shift your focus. Affirmations are phrases that reinforce positive feelings and help you stick with a new mindset. So, for example, if you’ve been sick but want to get healthy, try saying an affirmation like, “My body is strong and resilient.” As you say the words, imagine that your body already is strong and resilient, that you’ve already reached your goal of health. Focus on how that feels and hold onto it for a few minutes. Again, that emotion behind your intention is really important to attracting what you want.
The third technique is visualization. It should be done while you’re very relaxed or, ideally, while meditating. Start by finding a suitable place to do your visualization. Pick somewhere where you can really get comfortable, whether that’s indoors or outdoors, in silence or with quiet music. Whatever works for you is great. Breathe deeply, clear your mind, and if you can, get into a meditative state. Then, build a picture in our mind of what you want. See the goal with as much detail as possible. Include scents, sounds, physical sensations, and even smell if you can. And don’t imagine the road to reaching the goal, just the goal itself. For example, if you want to be a teacher, imagine being in your classroom. Imagine writing on the chalkboard for your students. Can you feel the dustiness of the chalk? Hear the students behind you? What does your classroom look like? Once you’ve got a clear image of your goal or the thing you desire, imagine how it would feel to attain that goal. Hold onto the joy, confidence, pride, comfort, and other positive feelings that come up and affirm that that’s what you’re now attracting.
Now, while you’re going through the process of realigning your thinking there are a couple of things to keep in mind. One is to make sure your focus is on the positive or what you do want as opposed to what you don’t want. So, returning to the health example, focus on becoming healthy, not on overcoming illness. If you focus on “overcoming illness”, the idea of illness is still included your focus which could attract more of it. So keep the subject what you want to make sure you’re not accidentally attracting the opposite.
Another thing to mention is that it’s not only your conscious focus that impacts what you attract—your subconscious mind and unconscious mind both have an effect too. Changing the beliefs hidden below the surface can be tricky, but it’s doable. As you consciously change your focus, you might notice doubts and fears come to light. As they do, try to work through them– do your best to figure out why you feel those fears and to let them go. Then, as you continue to reinforce your new positive beliefs, they will start to replace the underlying negativity that might have been helping to attract things you didn’t want. This step can definitely take time, but keep at it and you’ll notice the changes in the way you think and feel.
And then there’s the importance of letting go. As important as it is to hold focus on the things you desire, there has to be some amount of release as well. Obsessing can turn negative if you don’t get what you want right away or in the way you expect. It’ll lead to doubt and disappointment which definitely won’t attract the things you’re after. Let go of your expectations and trust that what you want will come to you.
But letting go doesn’t mean you can just sit back and wait. There’s a misconception that using the Law of Attraction to get what you want means things will just fall into your lap. While it’s always a possibility, chances are you’re still going to have to work for that new job or take steps toward meeting that special someone. You might attract opportunities that lead you to your end goal, and if you don’t act, you’ll never get there. Take advantage of the stepping stones that you’ve worked hard to bring into your life! They’ll lead you to where you want to be.
And those are the basics of the Law of Attraction.
You might be thinking, “That sounds pretty new age-y,” and honestly, it is popular among new age groups. But there are scientific reasons to believe that the way you think affects the way you feel. Take the placebo effect—if you believe a pill will make you feel better, it often will regardless of whether it’s actually medicine or a simple sugar pill. There are countless documented cases of people experiencing spontaneous remission from serious conditions after a shift in the way they think. If your thoughts and feelings can affect your body, is it so unreasonable to believe that they can affect other parts of your life too?
I hope this helped give you an idea of what the Law of Attraction is and how people claim it can be used to achieve goals. If there’s something you want to change about your life, why not try some of the techniques covered in this video and see what happens? And if you’ve tried them before, let me know in the comments what your experience was like!