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How To Find a Mentor Easily – 10 Steps to Being in a Mentorship

Mentorship

Mentorship is defined as “a relationship in which a more experienced or more knowledgeable person helps to guide a less experienced or less knowledgeable person”.

Everyone needs to learn how to get and keep a mentor in their life, because the best way to learn anything is through mentorship. Entrepreneurs, especially, or anyone who is learning cutting-edge science and technology needs a mentor to learn in the quickest way possible. Mentors can be a lot of things that most people overlook. They can be:

  • Past mistakes
  • Books
  • Other people
  • Online Courses
  • anything that teaches you

I read over 300 books last year, and they changed my life, my income, my relationships, just overall improved the quality of my life. Books, for me, are the best form of mentors. An in-person mentor relationship is possibly the best all-around simply because you’ll get live feedback from the teacher. 

I haven’t really had the opportunity to be around wise and old mentors, but I can definitely read their books. Books on money, books on relationships, books on sales funnels, books on health…Experts say if you read 4 books on any topic, you’re in the top 90% of the population that knows information about that topic.

Imagine how much more reputable you would seem if you read just one book a month in your industry. They say an average CEO reads over 52 books a year, and that’s because there’s always something new to learn, changes happening, and to stay on the top and stick with cutting edge business, you need to keep learning. Business mentors are very busy, so when you go in for the ask you should have something that adds value to their life. For example, in a business situation you could say “If you’ll train me how to sell things online through email marketing, I’ll write your future emails for you, so you won’t have to”. 

You don’t need permission to get a mentor!

what are mentors

So a lot of people are really confused and go about getting a mentor wrong. I get tons of emails a month about people asking to be mentored by me, and if I get a bunch, you know people like Gary Vee, Grant Cardone, other big business people are getting loads of requests. Here’s the big deal. 

You don’t need permission to get a mentor! Just go consume everything they put out, all of their content. Getting a professional mentor that follows your every step and watches your work is overrated. 

Go buy all of their books, their courses, and actually, you don’t even have pay… just look up stuff on Youtube, read blog posts about them, everything you can find, consume it.

If they have taken the time to make a course, or write a book, they did it so you could learn.

I got a whole bunch of emails on dating advice and my top videos were about dating and how to talk to girls… so I made a whole course of premium content just teaching you how to find, get, and keep your dream girl. You’re going to get much much more out of that, than you are asking me a question. The difference is you searching for my content, versus you asking me to give you content. Most of the time, the mentors you love already have put out a ton of content, you just have to look for it. The difference is you putting in the work versus them putting in the work. Make life easier for them and they’ll be more likely to help you.

how to find a mentor

 

Why do you need a mentor?

How did you learn to walk? When you were a baby, you watched other adult professional-walking humans walk. No really, that’s how you learned.

We can copy this strategy and use it to learn almost anything else.

If you want to learn how to ride a unicycle (shoutout to Brandon), if you want to learn how to animate (shoutout to Yusuf), if you want to learn how to create an awesome sales funnel (shoutout to Clark), you learn from experts.

how to be an expert

My favorite way to learn is to learn from other people, and that includes books. This is why mentorship is sooo important. If you’re a fan of evolution, you know that a species that learns from it’s own mistakes, does not live as long as a species that learns from the mistakes of others. You can do the same by learning from other people’s mistakes.

When I was creating my dating course, I had Alex from Create and Go mentoring me. He wasn’t holding my hand, but he was there to double check my work and answer my questions. We sent emails back and forth, he would answer them in video format, and I got a lot out of just seeing his thought process about course creation and getting sales. Notice how he didn’t do the work for me, he showed me. This is something else that is very important. Mentor’s aren’t there to hold your hand, but they are there to guide you, help you along the way.

Also, you need to know that mentorships between people are usually very personal and the mentor is quite invested in seeing you succeed. A lot of professionals will hire coaches and want the same thing, but a coach just wants to to be paid and doesn’t necessarily worry about your personal success.

Now, I’m going to give you some tips to actually finding a mentor and making sure they are in the right mindset to help you.

  1. Stop thinking of a mentorship as a relationship that you get to take value from. When you are being mentored, you need to add value as well, and you also need to make sure you’re the one doing the work
  2. You need to put in the effort to be a good mentee. Make sure you’re polite around the people training you and come with the right equipment and tools to learn.
  3. When you start the mentorship, make sure you lay out your clear goals and wants of the relationship. Some people might take advantage of you and actually have you work for them longer than expected, so make sure if you’re working to learn, that once you have a valuable understanding of the skill or trade that you aren’t taken advantage of.
  4. Hang around places where you might find a mentor, if you haven’t already. If you want to find a computer engineer mentor, I wouldn’t spend most of your time at the bar or bowling alley. Instead, I’d be seeking them out in libraries and tech stores.
  5. Once you’ve found your mentor, make sure to study them personally. Consume all of their content and make mental notes of their strengths and weaknesses so you can better understand your relationship with them.
  6. Give them something. When the mentorship has come to it’s end, you need to thank the person who’s taught you so much! Take them out for a nice dinner or bring them a gift as a token of your appreciation. Most mentors don’t teach for pay, but letting them know you care about them and expressing gratitude will be worth it. Learning how to get a mentor will be worth it once you’ve started showing fruits of the knowledge that was transfered!

 

Captivate: The Best Toolbox of Social Hacks by Vanessa Edwards

It’s a great day to learn! and If you’ve ever wanted a tool-box of social skills, I wouldn’t recommend spending $1000 on body language and dating experts, instead I’d just recommend to read this entire book from front to back. Hey guys, it’s Practical Psychology and today we’re going to be reading Captivate, and hopefully by the end of this video you’ll understand why looking into someone’s eyes for over 7 seconds has the same effect as looking at them naked.

The first big takeaway from this book is to know that emotions are hard to fake through body language, especially microexpressions. Vanessa warns against being a “yes man” and saying yes to any social gathering, as this will put you around people you don’t want to be around, in places you don’t want to be, and it’ll show. She suggests instead to pick where you want to go and be comfortable when developing a social skill, or implementing any of the hacks in this book. Pick a place where you will thrive, that will boost your confidence, and it’ll show in your microexpressions, or tiny subconscious facial expressions you can’t control, but other people can pick up. Also, if you do have to be somewhere you don’t want to be, pick the place in the room you’ll at least be the most comfortable.

The next thing I learned is that first impressions are super, super important. Vanessa and her team knew this, but proved it by showing a couple of clips from a class to participants and asking them to rate the teacher. It didn’t matter if they showed them the entire semester of classes, 30 seconds, 10 seconds, or even 2 seconds of the teacher, the participants rating results were all about the same. This shows us that within 2 seconds, someone has judged, or rated us. Another study did basically the same thing on two TED talks. Now, these talks where on the same topic, both published in September 2009, both were around 18 minutes long, but one had 23 million views, while the other had under a million. So Vanessa and her team analyzed a whole bunch of TED clips and found a few common hacks to engage the crowd better. They found on average the least popular TED talkers used 272 gestures, and the most popular used over 600, which apparently they painstakingly counted one by one in the name of behavioral science. So hand gestures are important, but they also found having an energetic tone and open body language were very common as well!

One thing that is difficult to measure in TED talks in eye contact, because the talker doesn’t really look at the camera. However, we can measure eye contact’s effects on likability in other ways. One method was the world’s biggest eye contact experiment ever. Over 100,000 people from over 150 cities were asked to participate in one minute of sustained eye contact with a stranger. The results get me excited. So, many of the participants hugged afterwards, most felt an intense emotion for the other person, and some even cried! Apparently looking at someone that long is a form of vulnerability, and it has almost the same effect on the brain as looking at each other naked. Vanessa says in most situations anything over 7 seconds of direct eye contact is above average and will induce likability. There’s also evidence that looking into the eyes of a future-rapist will deter them from performing a rape.

There’s a chapter in the book about conversation sparks, which are what Vanessa calls conversations that don’t include small talk. Fun fact: talking about something more than the weather, a sports game, or exchanging casual “how ya doing”s can produce more dopamine in the brain, the chemical that is responsible for addictiveness and will help the other person remember you better. Here are some freebie examples you can use to hack this; Change “how’s work” to “Working on any exciting projects lately?”. Change “How are you” to “What has been the best part of your day so far?”. Change “been busy” to “What do you do to unwind?”. Change “Do you understand what I’m saying” to “naw what I’m sayin man?”.

Another thing about conversation sparks. Vanessa says to find and use “Hot Buttons”, which means to find words that sparks the other person’s interest. If someone mentions motorcycles, digital marketing, or psychology hacks to me, I’m sure to perk up! Find hot buttons by watching their reactions, and listening to what they say. There was a study done on OKCupid, a popular online dating website, that found that when participants were messaging other people on the site, they would have an enormously increased rate of a response if they used words like “zombie, vegetarianism” or their favorite band. Funny enough, “Literature and grad school” were also on the hot button list.

Now let’s get onto two very interesting psychological effects. The first is called Pygmalion effect, and I have to tell a story for you to understand it. There was a famous Greek myth about this famous sculptor, and his name was Pygmalion. I’m probably saying this wrong, as it’s one of those words I’ve only ever read. He bought a large piece of ivory, and carved, the most beautiful woman he could out of it because he was lonely, or weird, or well, that’s what they did in that day when they were bored. He was ashamed of this, and people made fun of it, like they would today, so he asked Aphrodite, a god of beauty to the Greeks, to allow him to meet someone as beautiful as his sculpture. Anyways, he went back to his statue, and weirdly kissed it, but felt that the lips were warm. Kissed it again and the statue came to life. He ended up marrying this woman in the myth. Anyways, there’s a psychological effect named after this guy, and it is summed up in: “Great expectations are met with greatness”. It’s actually been proven, too.

When voters are told they are more “politically active”, they vote more than a control group. When donors are told they give more than average, the end up donating more. In fact, when a computer gives automated compliments to students, those students perform better on the tasks (aka homework), even if they know the compliments are computer generated. So use this to your advantage, and tell people around you what they are good at. Now, I wouldn’t lie, but find their strengths and highlight them to not only help improve them, but also give them a dopamine rush around you, making them like you more.

The other psychological effect is called “Similarity-attraction effect” and this is when people like people who walk, talk, speak,and think like them. Like “birds of a feather flock together”, but this is usually just for friends – in some cases couples are happier when their masculine and feminine qualities compliment each other, so don’t use this as a cliche. Use this effect to get people to like you by doing whatever you can to come to the conclusion of “me too” instead of “not me”.

Good: “I like Game of Thrones” “Me too…. this episode blah blah blah”

Bad: “I like to travel” “I’ve never been to a beach before”

Hacking: “I’m a vegan” “Isn’t Ellen DeGeneres a vegan? I love watching her show!”

If you want to advance this for even more social points, just ask them to teach you something. People love talking, and they like teaching even more. Here’s a tip I’ve used a couple times – let them teach you something even if you already know. Yeah, I know how veganism works, but you explaining it to me will get you to like me, I’ll learn more about your opinions, and maybe I’ll even learn something new about veganism.

The last thing I want to leave you guys with out of this toolbox is to use stories. A study done by Vanessa and a fellow researcher wanted to find out commonalities of viral articles written on the New York Times and other popular outlets. So they analyzed them. They found that out of 559 articles, 65 were tutorials, 69 had to do with history, 84 were funny, 109 were actually reporting important news, and a whopping 195 of them were stories. Hooking someone and leading them on to a climatic ending is important to get and keep attention. Just take a look at Charisma on Command, his videos routinely go over 10 minutes and the best ones include tons of stories!

If you want to check out this full book, or want to listen to any audiobook for FREE, there’s an Amazon and Audible link below, respectively. I hope you guys enjoyed this video and learned something!

Elon Musk: Tesla, SpaceX and the Eccentric Billionaire – Ashley Vance Book Review

I want you to leave a comment below of what the most amazing thing you did when you were 12 years old, and I’ll explain why later in this video.

Elon Musk was born in Africa, which not very many people know, but that didn’t stop him from reading every single book in the local library. In fact he ran out of books to read between 3rd and 4th grade. Anyways, before I get much further, I wanted to let you guys know this is going to be a book review of the biography of Elon Musk, written by Ashley Vance. Now, Ashley does an AMAZING job at being unbiased writing this book and including both sides to every story, and it’s something I wish more journalists could do so well.

By the age of 12, Elon had written a computer game with only 167 lines of code, sent it to a magazine and won $500, which was a lot of money for young Elon. He called the game Blastar and the player fought against space aliens. He said “Maybe I read too many comics as a kid, but it always seems like they are tyring to save the world. It seemed like one should try to make the world a better place because the inverse makes no sense.” Elon’s futuristic traits started at a young age, and coupled with his immense book knowledge and photographic memory, he soon because out of the ordinary. He didn’t have very many friends at school and his parents said it was not unusual for him to read 10 hours a day.

If you’ve ever studied Albert Einstein, you know of his famous “thought experiments” where he would run simulation of new ideas in his mind, which Elon recalls almost the same thing. “For images and numbers, I can process their interrelationship and algorithmic relationships. Acceleration, momentum, kinetic energy — how those sorts of things will be affect by objects comes through very vividly.” So he’s kind of like an Albert Einstein on steroids mixed with the Robert Downey Jr’s Sherlock prediction and analysis methods.

Throughout the book, his eccentric and unusual way of thinking becomes evident early on. For example, while Elon is playing outside one night with is siblings, one of them complains of the dark and how frightening it is; while Elon points out “dark is merely the absence of light”, and he would continue to point out thinking flaws to people because he genuinely thought people would be happy to hear about their flawed thinking. This is something he states he’s had to overcome while managing hundreds of people.

It’s worth noting that Elon’s dad, Errol was quite mean and caused Elon a “great deal of misery” throughout his childhood”. Some people say this gave roots to Elon’s managerial aspects, as Errol was also a great engineer. Let’s move on to the Easter Egg story.

Elon had entrepreneurial tendencies early on, as he collected many eggs, would paint them with his brother and sell them to a wealthier neighborhood during the Easter season. This is about the same time Elon started creating his own homemade explosives and miniature rockets, he said in one interview “it’s amazing how many things you can get to explode”. Also, “I’m lucky to have all my fingers”.

At around age 20, Musk saved up money, and moved to Canada, I believe to get closer to living in America, but also to avoid joining the military in Africa. He spent over a year in Canada doing odd jobs like gardening, which is also something I found interesting; because the millionaire social media celebrity Tai Lopez also worked on a farm for around a year during the same age.

During college, Musk considered making video games as a living; stating “I really like computer games, but then if I made really great computer games, how much effect would it have on the world?”. He said he couldn’t do it because he knew he could offer the world; and I think this is a conversation we all have to have within ourselves. He ended up graduating with a degree in both physics and economics from The University of Pennsylvania. An interesting fact is one of his research papers was on solar energy, and the economics from it; combining both physics and economics into a single report.

After college, Elon founded a startup called Zip2, and it basically combined yellowpages and Google Maps for an online directory of companies. One interesting thing about this startup is that Elon lived at the office, working some amazing hours, while taking showers at the local YMCA when needed. He was committed. I don’t want to get into the whole story, but if you’re interested just check out the book. While trying to get funding, Elon told one investor “My mentality is that of a samurai. I would rather commit seppuku than fail”. Seppuku is a form of suicide that samurais used to do as a form of punishment and honor. This gives us insight into his mentality, which is really important. He’s all or nothing, which is something I’ll talk about later on.

Another cool story about Elon is the mountain biking story. So Elon and his friends were invited to a mountain biking thing, but he definitely wasn’t in shape. Everyone went on their own pace, and first one friend passes, then his cousin passes, then more cyclists, then 15 minutes later Elon, purple-faced, panting, and drenched with sweat comes pumping up the hill to the top. One of his friends said “I always think back to that ride. He wasn’t close to being in the condition needed for it. Anyone else would have quit or walked up the hill. As I watched him climb up that final hundred feet with suffering all over his face, I thought, that’s Elon. Do or Die, but don’t give up”. This mentality is also super important, and something I think we can grow. Persistence and endurance even through pain.

I’m going to quickly skip over the part where he makes a whole bunch of money, over $100 million, basically selling x.com to Paypal, along with all of the difficulties to not spoil it, but lets talk about SpaceX for a bit. So Elon wanted to build a rocket, but couldn’t find one cheap enough, in fact he got a price of $8 million a rocket from the Russians, tried to bargain and quickly got sent home. So, what did Elon do? He took his own money, gathered up a group of people who knew how to build rockets, and started making his own rockets. Now there was tons of testing with this, but one thing was for sure, his employees were taken care of. One time, Elon remembers hearing an employee complain about his eyesight, but he didn’t know Elon was listening. The next day, Elon gave him some time off work, and paid for laser eye surgery. That’s a trait of a great leader. Elon did that with his own money. And we went on to spend his own $100 million on Tesla and SpaceX until he ran out of it, and had to start begging from his friends and family. Eventually there was a successful rocket launch and, well, now he’s a billionaire.

From this, we can learn 3 things about a successful entrepreneur, and I didn’t even get past the second half of the book in this review.

  1. Elon would rather die than not try.
  2. Elon never gave up, especially when it got tough. He gave it his all and had faith his ideas were going to work.
  3. Elon cared for his employees, and did whatever it took for them to get the job done.

I hope you guys enjoyed this review, if you want to read the whole book, or to pick out a free audiobook from audible, I have link in the description respectively. Thanks so much for watching, and subscribe for more! Oh yeah, and shoutout to galwaro for the background music, leave a comment what you think, link in the description!

Smarter Better Faster: The Scientific Ways to Be More Productive by Charles Duhigg

The first chapter in this book is about motivation, which automatically captured my attention. Charles, the author, says he found through his research there are actually two ways you can grow your own motivation, and the first starts with something that the Marine Corps implemented. Sometime during the 20th century, more and more people started signing up to join the military, and that meant a wider spectrum of people who had to be trained. One leader in the military decided too many unmotivated people were joining the Marines and he wanted to get to the bottom of how to create motivation, so he contacted many psychologists and started implementing new systems to create self-drive and internal motivation in new recruits.

What did he change? Well, they changed quite a few things, but they all had one thing in common. All of the changes had the effect of increasing the internal locus of control within the recruits. An internal locus of control means an internal feeling that what someone does has a direct influence and effect on their own destiny. Basically, they taught the Marines that their actions mattered. The opposite of learned helplessness, a psychological condition in which people think that no matter what they do, their circumstances wouldn’t change.

What about the other part of motivation? Well, I have to tell you a story about a group of people who suddenly lost their motivation. So a psychologist started researching and found a group of people throughout history who had once been SUPER driven and self-motivated, but one day they just lost their spark. Like, literally, no motivation. They were still there, they could do math, they could do anything they could do before, but one day they just lost motivation. Some of these guys went from running a million dollar business to watching TV all day, or literally staring at a wall. After some xrays and other tests, the psychologist concluded that all of these people had pinpricks in their striata, which is the plural word for the part of the brain that controls rewards and habits. They had a super small amount of bleeding, and some of the people reported things when they lost their motivation such as a wasp sting, falling and hitting their head, and a few other traumatic events. So the conclusion is that these people had brain bleeding in the part of the brain that controlled motivation. But something significant happened to one of the people.

One guy and his wife were known for being super driven. When the husband lost his motivation, the wife got frustrated. She tried everything, and after a few years, she started offering him choices. This shirt, or that shirt. Pancakes or waffles. Little stuff like that, and eventually he started to be more motivated, he started talking to more people on his own. Cleaning up on his own. The psychologist found out that choices increase our own motivation levels because it reminds us that we are in control, and we love that feeling. Now that I think about it, my mother gave me tons of choices while I was young. Asking me “do you want to wear this shirt, or that shirt”, “what would you like for breakfast”, “You have to do a chore, but is it this chore or that chore”? I am blessed my mother gave me that ability through her parenting. Thanks mom.

Anyways, the psychologist did another test on the driveless people. He put them in a fMRI machine to measure their brain activity during a game. The game was that these people had to guess if a number was higher or lower than 5. Each number was between 1 and 10, but they had to guess if it was higher or lower than 5. Pretty simple, right? Well, these people loved the game. Like, really loved it. They liked the fact that their choices were a game, and their striata lit up in the fMRI. The psychologist started another game, where the number was generated by a computer, and he found that when they had no decision to make, no choice in whether they won or lost the game, the striata was dormant. So having a choice increases our motivation. Have you ever been sitting in a line that takes forever, or even on the highway during a traffic jam, but if there is an exit, you’ll take it, even if you know the exit will take longer to get home? This is you exercising your choice muscle, and ultimately increasing your self-drive.

So to increase our own motivation levels, we have to do two thing; understand our own locus of control; that what we do actually has an impact on our destiny, and also make lots of choices. In fact, even if the choices are bad, or defiant; like a teenager going over the speed limit, or an elderly person rearranging their nursing home room (when they aren’t allowed to), this will increase our drive.

Wow, 800 words so far and I’m only in the first chapter. I guess I’ll make the next chapters quicker.

So chapter 2 is about teams and teamwork. After studying a whole bunch of group projects, basically, the one factor that makes a great team is something called “psychological safety”. Psychological safety is a term for when a group has a shared belief that the team is safe for interpersonal risk taking. It can be defined as “being able to show and employ one’s self without fear of negative consequences of self-image, status or career”. So basically create an environment where nobody harshly judges anybody else’s idea.

Chapter 3 is about Focus. Charles describes focus as a flashlight, that we can shine it very dimly over a whole bunch of stuff, or we can zoom it in to focus very intensely on a single thing. There are benefits to both, but in most emergency situations, our focus gets super intense on the wrong thing. This is called cognitive tunneling. Cognitive tunneling can cause tons of errors, like an airplane crash. After listening to the blackbox of an airplane that crashed, we can usually determine the major reason of a crash by listening to the narrative of the pilots. In the book, Charles shows how cognitive tunneling between two pilots caused a crash, and how they panicked and focused on the wrong thing. Many other people do the same thing when they panic, but some; like firefighters, emergency response teams, and some military trainees don’t.

So what’s the difference? Well, Charles Duhigg found out it’s something called Mental Modeling. Have you ever played out a conversation in your head, before it happened? Or thought about working on something while laying in your bed at night… visualizing how you are going to do it tomorrow? Well, this is called mental modeling, and Charles says by doing it, we are keeping our flashlight super intense and get better at focusing it on what we desire, so when panic comes, we are better at moving it around to what needs to be looked at. It’s basically your brain’s ways of anticipating what’s next, and if you do it enough, you’ll get better and be able to think more clearly in difficult and emergency situations. This is why visualizing is so important in so many ways.

Chapter 4, and probably the last one I’ll be able to talk about is about goals. So we’ve talked about SMART goals before, but if you’ve never heard of them, they were basically proved as part of the perfect goal-setting experience and I’ll give you a brief rundown.

So SMART is an acronym for how you should set up your goals. They are important, because Duhigg says they turn “vague aspirations into concrete plans”, something you can actually do to get to where you want to be.

  • S stands for specific. I will run 5 miles.
  • M stands for measurable, like can you actually measure your goal? Yes, you can measure 5 miles.
  • A stands for actionable, for example, is 5 miles something you can do? Yes.
  • R stands for realistic. Don’t be aiming for 50 miles a day.
  • T stands for time-bound or timeline. Make a goal for each day, and hopefully by the end of a month, or after a couple weeks you will improve.

So the second part of the perfect goal equation is the stretch goal. Jack Welch, the CEO of GE at the time, wanted to find a way to travel around Tokyo faster by a train. Basically he said he wanted something to go 120mph, while his engineers said anything over 60 would make the train tip over while going around a turn. Anything over 70 would be impossible. Well, he gave them that stretch goal, and throughout time they figured out a way to get it done, to tunnel through the earth. If they hadn’t had the stretch goal, they would have never innovated enough to come up with this new, super efficient way to travel. Duhigg says when we mix stretch goals, with SMART goals, we can operate at peak goal-setting and achieve more than we would without such goals. My stretch goal is to hit 10,000,000 subscribers and to spread my love of psychology. Well, that’s all I have time for today, I hope you guys learned something from my little review, and if you want more; don’t forget to subscribe!

The Happiness Equation – My Favorite Happiness Book Summary

The Happiness Equation is so far, my absolute favorite read on happiness. The stories in it were super fascinating and Neil Pasricha did a wonderful job integrating studies and facts with his own stories.

The author starts off the book by showing the most common flowchart for happiness. First you work really hard, then you become successful, then you become happy. Train, then win, then be happy. Well, that’s a misconception and causes a lot of unhappiness. Similar to the Happiness Advantage, he shows that most people work better when they are happy, and better works leads to a higher chance of success, which reroutes the flowchart backwards.

Right into the first couple chapters, Neil gives you 7 ways to be happier in just a couple days. One of the ways was to write down, or journal, when you feel happy. Not only will this extend those happy feelings, but it will also give you something to read when you are feeling unhappy. Another tip he gives is to perform a random act of kindness. In fact, he quotes Martin Seligman “we scientists have found that doing a kindness produces the single most reliable momentary increase in well-being of any exercise we have tested.” Try it out, perform 5 random acts of kindness this week, and don’t forget to write about them and how you feel in a journal! One last tip he mentions is to come up with 5 things you’re grateful for. He turned this into a business, creating a blog and eventually a book by listing things from “wearing underwear fresh out of the dryer” to “riding on someone’s shoulders when you’re a kid”.

But before he goes any further in the book, he wants you to understand WHY it’s important to be happy. So, he pulls out a study about nuns. Some researchers found a bunch of handwritten autobiographies of nuns who joined convents in the 1930s. What did these researchers do? They read all the notes, and sorted them into two groups based on how positive the attitudes were. The cool thing about this study is that this study group had no outliers – none of these nuns drank, smoke, had children, married, and they all lived in the same city, and even ate around the same food – so their relative happiness must be closely related to their attitudes. What did the researchers find? On average, the happiest nuns lived 10 years longer than the grumpy ones. Also, by age 94, 54% of the happy nuns were still alive, but only 15% of the least happy ones were. This famous nun study helps us realize how important it is to stay happy!

Something I found relatively useful in this book is to change the way you think about goals. A lot of people pick goals they can’t specifically control. For example: I want to lose 10 pounds, I want to reach 1,000,000 subscribers, I want to reach $1000/month in my side hustle. Here’s what you goals should look like: I want to work out 3 times a week, I want to upload a high quality video every week, I want to publish 12 E-books this years. Those are things you can directly do, while the first goals were dependent on how much food you ate, the Youtube Algorithm, and how people react to your writing.

Let’s move onto the next study, this one is my favorite, oh man I get excited about this topic. So, there’s this island called Okinawa, and what’s special about it, is that people live the longest there, and they live the longest without disability too. Here’s some examples. A 96 year old man defeated a 30 year old boxing champ. A 105 year old killed a snake… with a flyswatter. So yeah, obviously some pretty cool stuff happens here. Anyways, scientists were interested in this so they started studying these people, and the found a couple things.

  1. They ate on average smaller meals than most humans do
  2. They stopped eating earlier – when they were 80% full
  3. They were born into social groups and stayed in the social group until they died
  4. They didn’t have a word for retirement

In fact, they never retired. They never stopped working. The Japanese call this Ikigai, which means a reason to wake up in the morning. Do you have one? Here are some examples: One guy’s purpose is to teach martial arts and keep the art alive, he is 102. There’s a 100 year old fisherman and his reason is to catch fish and feed his family. Oh yeah, theres this 102 year old woman, and her reason is to hold her great, great, great, grandaughter. That would require 6 generations of the family. That’s nuts.

So, the moral of this study is to find your purpose, find your Ikigai and you’ll live longer.

Also, Neil point out three main things about retirement that you might want to consider:

  1. It is new. Nobody retired before the 18th century.
  2. It is a Western idea. Nothing wrong with this, but it doesn’t encourage as much contribution to family and society as a whole.
  3. It is broken. It’s based on
    1. We enjoy doing nothing as opposed to being productive.
    2. We can afford to do nothing for decades.
    3. We can afford to pay others for doing nothing for decades.

I feel 100% more fulfilled when I’m doing something productive, and it’s probably no coincidence people say “The two most dangerous days in your life are the day you’re born and the day you retire”.

Now let’s get on to how you can make more money than a Harvard MBA.

First of all, let me show you this graph, so you can understand it without me saying a whole bunch of words.

Let’s compare the salary of a Harvard MBA, an average retail assistant manager, and a teacher, with salaries of $120,000, $70,000, and $45,000 respectively.

Now add in vacation. Now let’s calculate how much each person actually works per year by multiplying how much they work per week by how many weeks they work in a year. Now you just divide their total salary by how many hours they work, and with these numbers, all of them come out to $28 per hour. This means that each hour someone is working with one of these jobs, they are earning $28/hour. A Harvard MBA graduate just works more hours per year, and that means they earn more, even if the rate is the same. Would you rather work an average of 81 hours a week, or an average of 30 hours a week? That’s the difference, just how long each person works. I bet the happiness of each of these people correlates to how much they enjoy their work.

One more big idea I got from this book is that happiness, well, self-satisfaction is when “what you think, what you say, and what you do” are all in harmony. In my past video on Outwitting the devil, maybe that is what Napoleon Hill meant about harmony.

The last thing I want to leave you guys with is that some of the best advice Neil said he got was not to follow advice or common sayings. He found that many common slogans are actually just catchy, and not always true. Here are some contradictions as examples:

  1. Birds of a feather, flock together = Opposites Attract
  2. Absence makes the heart grow fonder = Out of sight, out of mind
  3. You get what you pay for = The best things in life are free
  4. Good things come to those who wait = The early bird get the worm

Anyways, I really, really enjoyed this book, and I hope you enjoyed my review! If you want to read this book, I’ll put the link in the description, and if you want a free trial to Audible, to listen to this book while you’re doing other stuff, there’s a link for that too! Thanks for watching, and I hope you learned something!

Your One Word by Evan Carmichael

Your One Word by Evan Carmichael – The Powerful Secret to Creating a Business and Life that Matter

In this video, we will be reviewing Your One Word by Evan Carmichael. I’ll teach you how you can increase your success by finding a single word that describes yourself and I’ll find mine in the process, there’s also a ton of technical tips on building a brand and business in here, I hope you guys enjoy this video and learn something from it!

Your One Word by Evan Carmichael

Your One Word describes who you are, what you want, and how you are going to grow yourself and your business.

Evan breaks up this book into three main parts, Core, Campaign and Company, and uses each chapter to help you find, use, and keep your one word for many reasons. I think the most important thing about your one word is that it helps keep your true north, what you really want in life during the difficult times. Martin Luther King Jr’s word was Equality, Oprah’s, is Heart, and Steve Job’s was Impact.

Basically, the Core chapter explains why it is so important to have a single word to describe yourself and how to find it through some simple exercises. It helps you evaluate your life, your character, and who you want to be in one word.

3 Ways to Sell a Product

Something I found helpful in this chapter is that he describes three types of selling. You can sell using a feature; this is when you sell a product marketing it by what features it has. For example, if you’re selling a lightbulb, you might claim it will last over 50 years and cost less than $5/year to power. These are independent features of the product or service. The second form of selling is Benefit Selling, when you market a product or service to how it will help the buyer. For example, you could say your lightbulb will never have to be replaced, and this sells emotionally and practically to the customer who is buying it. The third, however, Evan says is the most important and it is Core selling. It’s selling with your one word in mind. Core selling would be selling your lightbulb by showing how buying it would change the world. Maybe you will reduce total waste on the earth, or reduce energy consumption in a way that is very eco-friendly. Steve Jobs said in an interview that it wasn’t his first million, his first 10 million, it wasn’t even when he hit 100 million dollars that he felt like he was done, he said he wanted to change the world. The same with Elon Musk, when he started Tesla, he was pretty sure the company would fail and go out of business, he just wanted to change how people saw electric cars. Now look at both companies!

Just like money, your one word is a tool, and the outcome of the use of it is all up to the user of the tool.

Another part of the Core section explains why a single word is so important. It’s important because clarity leads to conviction. Let me explain.

If you have a single word that describes what you want to accomplish in your life, you can simply pass every decision through it and ask yourself “is this supporting or failing my one word”? So it helps you make better decisions, and faster too! It keeps your eye on the long game. It can also help you stay motivated. If you know you are in it to change the world, relying on your One Word should motivate you.

So, how can we find our one word. Evan offers 5 questions.

How to Find your One Word

  1. What makes you happy?
  2. What connects your happiness?
  3. What traits do you hate?
  4. What’s your constant?
  5. Is this really who you are?

He asks you to write down a huge list of things that make you happy, and to really think about it. To save you some time, I’ll skip to the next question, which is to find what connects all these things. For me, it is understanding. Understanding stuff helps make me happy, along with learning and teaching. The answer to the third question for me, is ignorance, I hate it when people don’t know stuff, or don’t have the access to further their education; ESPECIALLY when they have the drive and want to. Find out what traits you hate, and find the opposite.

The second part of the equation is Campaign. So this chapter is filled with tons of examples of how people have used their one word in the past to create a successful business in the past. I love historical examples and the research Evan did is outstanding. There are some technical and practical stuff in there I’d love to teach you about though.

One thing I resonated with is not to overthink or overspend on a logo. I spent 30 minutes designing the Practical Psychology logo and spent $25 for a designer to create it professionally. The logo isn’t as important as what the logo stands for, or well, what you make it stand for.

There are a couple more tips the author gives on creating a successful campaign.

Best Psychological Business Startup Tips

  1. Name your tribe. Give your audience a name, to make them feel special and connected. The Hunger Game fans call themselves tributes. The same with Evan’s audience, they are #BelieveNation. I tried branding my audience as Practitioners, but I’m not too sure. Charisma on Command is trying to brand his audience, and he even joked in a video calling his fans COCfighters. Just think of Logang and Jake Paulers.
  2. Use Rituals and Gestures. Evan uses the famous story of Corona and how they used lime wedges to brand their product. Another example of a ritual is toothpastes. Toothpaste used to never have a flavor, can you imagine that? Nobody wanted to use it; until they added citric acid, which added a sparkly clean feeling to the user after they brushed. Sales went through the roof. Also think of how Jake Paul always dabs on his haters or something like that. I only know because my little brother does this, don’t judge.
  3. Logos, Fonts, and Symbols. Use a combination of similar logos, fonts and symbols to brand your content to your audience. There are many psychological reasons to think deeply about these things and how it will boost overall performance; I may make a video about this later.
  4. Colors. Colors are important. They have meaning.
    1. Red means Danger, passion, love, boldness. Examples are Youtube and Rolling Stones
    2. Black means power and elegance. Examples are Nike and Apple
    3. Blue is Dependability, intelligence and wisdom. Examples are Facebook and Practical Psychology. Yeah, I did do that on purpose!
    4. Orange is happiness and creativity. Examples are Firefox and Nickelodeon.
    5. Green is Growth and nature. Examples are John Deere and Starbucks.
    6. Purple is royalty and luxury. Examples are Barbie and Cadbury.
    7. Yellow is joy and happiness. Examples are Ferrari and National Geographic, but Evan also included Ikea for some reason.
  5. Sounds. Think of how my early videos have that famous background music, and how I’m starting to use them again. Remember the Window’s loading sound, or the Intel Inside commercial? Evan’s videos always have a sonic boom type thing. One of my favorite Youtubers starts off his videos by saying “Good Day Subscribers”.

The last part of the book is Company. Evan talks a lot about building the proper culture and environment of a company that boasts your one word. He gives tips on how to hire people in your business, and how to fire people in your business (even if you like them). Another trick he mentions is to give a name to your employees; for example, Starbucks employees are called baristas. He also gives some tips how to get more funds and raising capital from venture investors. My last tip of this book is when you are pitching to a potential investor, you have to know that you are not just pitching your idea or business. You are actually pitching yourself, the investor isn’t just investing in your business, they are investing in you, and they know the difference between a good executor and a bad executor, both with a great idea, can cost millions of dollars.

I hope you guys enjoyed this book review, if you’re interested in the book, check out the Amazon link below. If you’re interested in listening to this book for free, check out the link below for a free trial at Audible. Leave a comment of what you think your one word is and thanks so much for watching!

Charisma on Command

Charisma On Command: How to Be More Charismatic by Understanding It

The book Charisma On Command was written by Charlie Houpert, who has a very interesting story, owns and runs the Youtube channel Charisma On Command as well as a website where he sell his Charisma University. It’s like a $600 in-depth course, and if you enjoy this video, or his book, I suggest checking it out! Anyways, Charlie was voted “Most likely to break out of his shell in college” when he graduated high school, but he mentioned when he was in college that didn’t happen, in fact, it happened when he decided to go on a study abroad trip to Costa Rica.

Charisma on Command

He said it was there when he realized Charisma was like a muscle, that it could be developed and built over time with the right routine and perseverance, and I believe the same.  He starts one chapter in the book off by stating that charisma is NEEDED. You know your friend in college who gets great grades, even though their academic passion is subpar? Or that coworker who isn’t as technically skilled as you, but still gets the promotion? Or even the guy who dropped out of high school yet still manages to get a date with, and eventually marries your dream girl? The simple fact is that nepotism and favoritism exist. You can say it isn’t fair all you want, but it’s easier to accept it and start understanding what it takes to get what the people we mentioned earlier had.

Charlie thinks charisma is an equation, and I think it’s a great idea to help us understand what charisma actually is. See, technically charisma is an outward expression of inward thoughts and thinking patterns. Stuff so small and quick you can’t even notice – like someone’s eyes squinting 25% more, holding eye contact for twice as long, head nods, and the positive energy boost you just feel after being with them. Our brain can’t process all this information so fast, so it just declares the state “I like this person, and want to be around them more”, which puts the person in your charismatic category.

Conviction + Energy + Presentation

 

Conviction

So this is the basic equation for charisma, and I’ll go over each variable in detail so we can better understand charisma. Conviction is confidence in your beliefs. For example, the famous Steve Jobs was hiring a friend John Scully, and in the process, Steve looked his friend in the eyes, who was working at Pepsi at the time, and told him “Do you want to sell sugar water for the rest of your life, or do you want to come with me and change the world?” The conviction was so strong, and Steve had so much confidence in his conviction that he got his friend to believe in him too. That’s what leaders do, and that’s why most leader are charismatic.

One important thing about conviction is that someone with it cares more about their character than the opinions with others. That’s difficult if you struggle with the pressure of others, but it can be overcome with practice or a mental mindshift. For example, Charlie mentions when he was thinking about moving to South America, all of his friends and family were discouraging him and telling him he shouldn’t do it, but he went because he felt like he needed to and it was in his character to do so. Just because people don’t want you to do something doesn’t think they won’t respect you if you do it, or your charismatic past will go down the drain; in most cases you’ll be seen as even more charismatic as long as the thing you’re doing is in line with your character.

 

Energy

The second part of the equation is energy. What is energy? There are many things that make up a charismatic attitude and presence, but the first is high energy, not low energy. Take a look at MLK and Hitler. They both had high energy, to lead a large amount of people to follow their ideas, whether good or bad. Another example is the famous Oprah scene, where she screams “you get a car, you get a car, you get a car, everyone gets a car!”. That energy is contagious and people love to be around it!

Positivity

Positivity is another part of the energy scene. You might be arguing, “Hitler wasn’t very positive” and you’d be wrong. While his ethical though process might not agree with yours, he was very positive in leading his people. For example, he didn’t lead with the thought his followers were going to lose the war, they were going to win it, and he believed it with all of his heart. Of course, on the other hand, the people who got a free car from Oprah saw her as pretty positive, as well as the people who watched that episode. If you want to be more charismatic, start by mastering positivity.

Supportive

One thing Charlie hits pretty good in this book is that there is a common misconception among friends, “we are so close we can joke about it by being rude, sarcastic, and mean to each other”. He says this ruins relationships and that biting sarcasm should always be avoided. I believe this too, and behind every lie there is a bit of truth. When you call your large friend fat, you are labeling him and he might joke about it too, but deep down it really offends him on a psychological level. Avoid being mean to people and your friends, even on a joking level; just changing this can mean a lot on your charisma meter.

Passionate

The last thing that can affect your energy is how passionate your are about something. Charlie says people are bored. They are bored at work, bored when they go to lunch, bored when they come home, bored when they turn on the TV, and bored when they scroll through social media. Give them something to be passionate about! It’s contagious, just be passionate about something and they’ll see it and want to be a part of it, just like John Scully and Steve Jobs.

The last part of the energy section, Charlie gives an awesome tip to choose any emotion you want, and how to instantly feel that emotion. I’m not going to tell you the tip, because I don’t want to ruin it, and you probably wouldn’t try it anyways.

Facial Feedback Hypothesis is the basic idea of the tip. I’ll explain this in a simple version. There was this experiment where scientists gave two people a pencil to hold in their mouth and one to write with their non-dominant hand. They told the participants they had to write with their non-dominant hand to distract them from the fact they were looking for something else. One group had to hold the pencil in their mouth with their teeth, causing them to smile, and the other had to use their lips, causing them to pucker without the pencil touching their teeth. After they were done writing a bit, they were told to leave, and write down on an exit survey how they felt. Those who were forced to smile, found that they were happier, which leads us to the conclusion of body language being one of the things you can fake until you make it. I’ll give you some body language tips to increase your charisma in a bit, but let’s get on to the Presentation part of the equation.

 

Presentation

This part of the book was dedicated toward how charismatic people gave attention to other people and made them feel important.

Here are some tips to increase your charisma by upping your presentation game:

  • Use their name and remember it
  • Make jokes in favor of them to boost their self-esteem
  • Give them genuine, non-reaction seeking compliments
  • Ask for their opinion
  • Look at the speaker when you are listening
  • Look at the audience, all of them, when you are speaking
  • Smile. For real. With your eyes.
  • Pull your shoulders back
  • Raise your chin
  • Align your pelvis properly – check out Anterior Pelvic Tilt exercises if needed
  • Use open body language and keep your body and chest pointed towards people
  • Use gestures, Charlie says to use a lot of them!
  • and touch other to build trust

There was a ton of information in Charisma on Command, and I really hope you guys enjoyed my review, if you want to check out this book, I’ll leave an Amazon link in the description. Also, if you want a free audiobook, I’ll leave a link in the description so you can sign up and get the audio version of this book from Audible. One more thing, remember at the beginning I said you could win $20? The best comment on my next video within 60 second of uploading will receive a $20 Amazon giftcard, so turn on that notification bell! Also, everyone who comments within 10 minutes, I’ll check out your channel and leave a comment on a video if you have any. Thanks for watching!

How to Make Money Online

How to Make Money Online – 16 Methods to Earn Online Income in 2018

In this article, you’ll learn how to make money online using the same methods I’ve used to create passive income in the past 3 years. I have two main goals with this video (technically an article, but check out the video too!). The first one is to educate and motivate you to learn how to make money online in 2018. The second is to beat Improvement Pills video on the same topic. Hopefully, by accomplishing the first goal, by educating and motivating you, and adding immense value throughout this video, it will lead me to my second goal. For some reason, I’m really competitive.

The first half of this video will be about active income. Active income is basically exchanging your own time for money. The last half of this video will be about passive income online, which basically means that it requires a little bit of initial startup time, and resources, but very, very little upkeep, once you’ve set it up.

At the very end of this, I’m gonna give you my three recommendations for a beginner, what I would have told myself a long time ago, if I was starting to try to earn money online. Feel free to sit back and learn. You can even minimize this video if you like. Anyways, here we go.

Amazon MTurk

If you’ve never heard of Amazon MTurk before, what it stands for is Amazon Mechanical Turk. It’s basically a marketplace hosted by Amazon, to do things that robots can’t do, that they have to have humans to do. They outsource it to people who want to make money online by spending their time doing tasks that are usually pretty easy. They outsource it to people with extra time, who wanna earn a little extra money.

There are all kinds of tasks on this website. Anywhere from searching data, to data entry, to transcribing, which transcribing means watching and listening to a video, or audio file, and then typing it. You can actually make 15 to 30 dollars an hour, if you know how to do this correctly. If you know more than one language, you can actually make money on this website by translating stuff.

Now, I’ve personally done this and I earned around 40 to 50 dollars. I didn’t put much work into it. My friend, he worked a full time job and he actually did this on the side. He did it for a couple months, and actually earned more than … I think it was like 350 dollars each month. So, they are real. They do pay out. You just have to put the time into it.

Retail Arbitrage: Ebay + Craigslist + Dollar Store

Another way to money online is by eBay. You can combine eBay, Craigslist … You can even go to the dollar store, Facebook marketplace, and basically what you do is, you become an entrepreneur buying low and selling high. You know, you go to your local dollar store and you find this little trinket, “Oh that looks cool. I wonder what it costs on eBay.”

You look it up on eBay, and you can sell it for 20 more dollars. Maybe it’s a super soaker water gun. You buy it at the dollar store for three dollars. You sell it on eBay for 23. Boom. 20 dollars right there. It probably doesn’t even take you an hour worth of your time. Anyway, so there are all kinds of marketplaces out there. If you learn how to leverage them, what sells best where? You can make a ton of money flipping stuff.

Number three is surveys. Now, surveys are kind of a pain in the butt, especially because you start getting some spam in the mail, but you can make a ton of money on this. There’s places out there, like Swag Bucks, which I’ll talk about later. Inbox Dollars, My points. There’s all kinds of places you sign up to, you take daily surveys, and you make money. Now, it’s not gonna be a substantial amount, like thousands of dollars a month, but if you have a grocery bill, or rent, or some other type of expense that you need to get taken care of that month, and you have some extra time, it’s a great way to fill that gap.

SwagBucks: Earn money from Searching

Now, onto Swag bucks. Swag bucks is pretty cool, because you can literally get paid by searching stuff. I did this probably a couple years ago, and I’ve been doing it every now and then, in my free time … You can earn a lot of extra money doing this. Basically, instead of going to Google, you use Swag bucks custom search engine, which you can set it to Google. You search stuff like, how to tie a tie, and then every once in a while, they’ll give you a reward for using their search engines. Now, there are tons of other ways to earn money on Swag bucks. You can actually shop. If you’re gonna shop on Amazon, and you shop through them, they will actually pay you a percentage of money, for doing that. You can watch videos that they have, basically like watching advertisements, other companies. You can play games, enter surveys. There’s all kinds of ways to make money on this, and they do pay. I have been paid by this company. Usually they just pay you by gift cards, which isn’t that bad.

Instagram Shoutouts

After Swag bucks, is Instagram Shoutouts. Now, Instagram Shoutouts is really cool, but it does take a little bit of time to build up. You have to have an initial following. Now, it’s really cool, because initially if you want to get a whole bunch of followers, you can go through, follow 100 people and then unfollow that 100 people, and you’ll usually have a net gain of like, 10 to 50 new followers. If you do that over time, maybe 1000 times in one month, or a couple months, eventually you’ll start to gain followers, and if you need to you can actually buy them.

After you have that initial following, you can actually sell Shoutouts. If you haven’t followed me on Instagram yet, follow me @practical_pysch. There’s some awesome updates on there that I can’t share on YouTube, that I share on my Instagram. Anyways, when I get up to around 200,000, maybe even half a million, I can start asking people to pay me, so that I can shout them out. I have a friend who does this. He has around two million Instagram followers. You might think, “Holy Moley. That’s a lot of followers to get. I don’t think I can ever do that.” Well, he said the same thing around two years ago. Now he makes around five to 6,000 dollars a month, just by doing Shoutouts. He’s easily made his money back

Upwork Freelancer

The next way to make money online, is by freelance jobs. Now, one of the best marketplaces for freelance work, is Upwork. This is actually what I use for all kinds of other stuff. If you’re a video editor, if you’re a graphic designer, even if you just wanna like, literally play a video game, or test a website, people will pay you to do this. Also, if you’re ever in need of a virtual assistant, Upwork is a great place to go. Personally, I use Upwork to hire occasional article writers, video editors, and even to do some graphic design work that I don’t feel comfortable doing myself. You can sign up to Upwork as a freelancer, which means, when someone posts a job, you can do it. Boom. There’s 60 bucks in your pocket for designing a background, or boom, there’s a 100 dollars in your pocket for editing a six minute video.

Fiverr and Seoclerks

Now, another usually cheaper marketplace is Fiverr. Now Fiverr’s really cool, because there’s a lot more people that do it, usually because the stuff is cheaper. You can make money by selling your services. You can do SEO work. You can do video editing, graphic design, even website feedback if you’re comfortable doing that. You can sell your own services. There’s another way to make money with Fiverr that not very many people know about. If they do know about it, they’re usually raking in a ton of cash. That is, to buy services from Fiverr, for five dollars, 10 dollars, and then sell them to business, who don’t know how to get the same services that cheap, for maybe 100 dollars, 200 dollars.

I’ve literally seen some guy go to a company, say, “Hey. I’ll make you a logo for 500 dollars.” Then he takes that and he goes and pays Fiverr 10 dollars. He gets a great logo, and he just made over 400 dollars profit, for a weekends worth of work. It’s crazy. Once you learn how to do this, you can scale it and make all kinds of money. Fiverr arbitrage is almost saturated, so learning how to diversify your online income is definitely recommended.

How to make passive income online

Now, let’s talk a little bit about passive income. Now, if you don’t anything about passive income, I highly encourage you to buy my eBook, in the link below. It’s called, Passive Income Tutorial. It goes through all kinds of mistakes that I’ve made in the past, and what I’ve done in the past that has made me successful. In fact, one month I actually earned 15,000 dollars. A couple months later I actually didn’t do any work for a solid month. I literally read books all month. I didn’t do anything online and I earned 4,000 dollars.

If you watch all the way through this video, there will be a video on the end screen showing that proof. The reason I did that, was as a testimonial to say, “I know how to make passive income online. You can buy this eBook, if you wanna learn how.” There are a ton of people out there, who say they can make money online, but the only way that they make money online, is buy selling other people the dream that they can make money online too. I have actually done that by building a business, by gaining an audience and selling them stuff.

Selling Digital Photos

Anyways, the first way you can make passive income online is by selling photos. There are all kinds of websites out there that will pay you a percentage of how much money they earn from selling your photo. Stuff like Smug mug, Pro, Shutter stock, iStock photo. If you’ve ever tried to buy a photo, you’ll realize, “Wow, that was 100 dollars for one photo.”

Well, that’s because Shutter stock pays a percentage of that money to the person that took that photo. You can do the same. You can take one photo, and then sell it on Shutter stock, and who knows, someone might buy that every day, and you’ll get 50 bucks. That’s 50 bucks a day, that you don’t have to do anymore work. That’s the glory of passive income. This is one of the best white hat ways to make passive money online, but is very time consuming.

Clickbank

The second way that I’ve learned to make passive income online, is through ClickBank. Now, ClickBank is a marketplace basically of other people’s products. Affiliate Marketing with Clickbank is quite reliable if you set up systems and processes. The cool thing about this is, is that you get a sell someone else’s product. It’s basically affiliate marketing. I’ll talk a little bit about that in the future. On ClickBank personally there are only two products that I highly encourage someone to buy, because I have bought them before, and they’re super easy to sell. The first one is K Money Mastery, and the second is Video Breakthrough Academy. Video Breakthrough Academy was actually created by one of my You Tuber friends. There are a ton of black hat courses out there, but Clickbank has a vetting process to make sure the product you’re selling are top notch.

Anyways, what you do is, you make a whole bunch of content, and then you lead people to your affiliate link. Whenever someone clicks on that affiliate link, you get a percentage of the sale. For example, Video Breakthrough Academy … Every time I sell one of those, I get half of whatever someone pays for the product. If they pay 300 dollars for that, I will earn 150 dollars. Some people make over 60,000, 80,000. There are even some people who earn over half a million dollars online, through selling other people’s product.

Amazon Affiliates

The third coolest way to make passive income online is through Amazon Affiliates. Now, the way Amazon Affiliates work, is that you put a link in your description of your YouTube channel, or your blog, or some other website that you have, and what happens is, whenever someone clicks on that link, boom. They get a cookie on their browser, which means any product they buy on Amazon for the next 24 hours, you get a percentage of. One example of this is that, on my YouTube channel, I sell books. I create book reviews, and then I sell books in the affiliate link in the description.

Someone actually clicked on one of those links, and then went and bought a 1,000 dollar camera. Now, I personally did not sell that 1,000 dollar camera, but what happened was, Amazon wanted to reward me for directing the person to Amazon. They actually gave me 50 bucks for that sale. I wasn’t even selling a camera. That was something that is really cool that a lot of people can do. Usually, the more clicks you can get on your Amazon affiliate links, the more money you will earn, even if it’s not selling your product.

Now, one guy I know, who has earned a ton on this, and has all kinds of experience, his name is Luqman Khan. He has a website that literally sells just wireless routers. He has documented that he has earned over 40,000 dollars in one month, from Amazon affiliate earnings. Now, I mentioned earlier that I actually have an eBook. That’s a whole different way that you can make passive income, is by selling Kindle eBooks. Now, Kindle eBooks are really easy to create.

Some people think that it’s just really hard to make ’em, so they don’t get into them. I bought and went through the K Money Master course, which I’ll link in the description below, and it teaches you how to create a Kindle eBook, how to market your Kindle eBook, how to do little tips and tricks on the Kindle store, so that it does well in selling. I did that before I created my Passive Income Tutorial eBook. It did amazingly well. I’ve earned like six, or 700 dollars in the first couple months.

Kindle Ebooks

The trick with making money on Kindle is not that you have one book that makes you a 1,000 dollars a month. It’s having 100 books, that makes you a dollar a day. That adds up, and over time your investments start to return on themselves, and you have 100 eBooks, maybe making between one and two sales a day, earning you 100 to 200 dollars a day, and that adds up over time.

If you’re interested in that, I highly recommend going and checking out K Money Mastery. You can do something that Improvement Pill recommended, which is to buy the product, and then go through the course, learn everything and then if you need to, for some reason, you need that money back, you can ask for a refund, because there is a 30 day refund on that product.

You can get that money back, and then you can start creating your Kindle courses, and then when you start earning your money back, you know, it’s a respect thing. It’s a moral thing. You should buy the product again, so the guy gets his money. Creating kindle ebooks to sell on Amazon is something most people don’t understand. You can actually make money online by selling a book that has under 3,000 words and it’s easier than most people assume.

Selling Digital Files

The next way to make passive income online is by selling digital files. Now, one of the best sites that I’ve found to do this, is Sellfy.com. Usually, they take a commission of whatever you sell. It’s two to five percent I think. You can create a small, little course, or you can have website templates, or you can have your own word press themes, and sell it on this website, drive traffic to that, and then eventually you’ll make money.

Selling Online Courses

Another way to make money by selling stuff, is signing up for Udemy, and teaching a course. I’ve heard by some specific people that Udemy kind of sucks, because they’ll gyp you out of money, because they’ll take your 300 dollar course, and then put it on sale for 10 dollars, so that they can get more users on their website. That’s kind of black hat, kind of ripping off creators. What I recommend doing is going to teachable.com. Teachable, for me personally, I think it’s way better that Udemy. It’s actually what I’m going to be making my own personal courses on. I’m almost finished with a habit course, and I’m working on some ideas on social skills, money management, and the psychology of your thought, those course.

I have actually created two different online courses, and they’re still earning me passive income online. The first, Habit Harvester is being sold as an Ebook on Amazon, but I also animated all of the chapters and put them on Youtube. My most recent course is the Psychology of Attraction, where I teach guys how to find, get, and keep the girl of their dreams using psychology to increase their attractiveness and confidence. This is personally one of my favorite money making tricks because I gave away free information, but it’s all monetized, from Youtube ads to Kindle Publishing.

If for some reason, you’re interested in those course, and you want a coupon on them, whenever they come out, I guarantee you, you will have a coupon, you will get a better price than everyone else, if you go to practicalpie.com and put your little email in that newsletter thing. Whenever I launch that course, I will launch it with a coupon code, so that you’ll get it at cheaper version.

Start a Membership Website

So, onto a membership website. This is essentially what I was going to do with practicalpie. I was gonna say, “All right everyone. 30 dollars a month. You get signed up through my membership site. You’ll get all kinds of information that I’ve learned, I’ve regurgitated from books, everything I’ve learned from business, psychology, relationships.” Those kinds of membership sites take a lot of upkeep and I didn’t want to do that on my own, so I outsourced it to teachable. Whenever I launch my course, that’s what I’m going to use, is Teachable, instead of my own membership website, so that I don’t have to deal with the coding and the back end stuff.

Earn Money with a Youtube Channel

The last way that I’m going to mention how you can make money online is by building a YouTube channel. Now, when you build a YouTube channel, you can make a lot of money with ad revenue, but it takes a ton of views. You can actually make way more money, if you sell stuff in the description. You might get 10,000 views, and that might earn you 20 dollars, but if you get 10,000 views and 10 percent of those people buy a 300 dollar course of yours, that’s gonna earn way more money than the video ever will. When you build a YouTube channel, you have got to be passionate. I cannot stress this enough, because there are tons of people, who get into YouTube, and will make a couple videos, and then fall out, because they’re not passionate about it. Then they just give up.

For me, I wanna tell you guys personally, it took 98 videos for my channel to hit that big golden star, and to go boom. YouTube likes this channel, It’s gonna start promoting it. One of my videos got into recommended I learned. After creating 98 videos, I got really good at how to create titles, how to make your thumbnails, and how to make sure that the viewer was engaged. Learned how to do all that through 98 videos.

Now, for some reason, if you want to skip making 97 videos, and you wanna have all of that experience on your own, you can actually go and check out the Video Breakthrough Academy. It’s actually created by one of my friends. I’ve went through the course, and I was like, “Man. I wish I could have learned this stuff back when I was starting my YouTube channel, so that I didn’t have to learn it all myself.” Actually, going through his course, I learned even more, and it was really helpful. There’s a lot of black hat creators out there that do stupid stuff like buying views, trading likes, and creating extra accounts to get subscribers, but it’s worth it to stick to the rules and let the algorithm pick up your content.

If for some reason you guys want to check that out, I’ll put a link to that in the description below. It’s called, Video breakthrough Academy. There is some amazing value in there. He goes over how to make more money on YouTube videos. He goes over how to do collaborations correctly. He goes over, how to record a video, how to script the video, a whole bunch of little tips, and tricks for engagement. Anyways, that is one of the best tools that I would suggest, so that you can learn how to make money online quicker.

So, we’ve went over about eight active income tips, which is MTurks, eBay, Surveys, Swag bucks, Instagram Shoutouts, freelance work, freelance work on Fiverr, and then actually selling Fiverr products to higher businesses. And then we also went over eight passive income strategies. And that is, to sell photos online, utilize ClickBank and affiliate sales, Amazon affiliate sales, selling Kindle eBooks, selling digital files on Sellphi, using Udemy, or Teachable to create an online course, creating your own membership website, and building a YouTube channel.

My Recommendations to earn money online

Now, I’m going to give you my three recommendations for any beginners, who want to learn to make money online. The first is, to buy the K Money Mastery program. Ask for a refund, and then buy it again later, after you’ve made your money back. You can learn as much as you want, but premium stuff will always contain value. Sometimes, just paying that initial cost of buying the K Money Mastery program, will motivate you to work harder, and become successful, so that you can actually earn your money back. It’s a great course. That would be my first recommendation for a beginner, who wanted to learn to make money online. As its been said in the past, you gotta spend money to make money. This course really doesn’t cost that much, for how much you’re going to be getting out of it.

My second recommendation is to sign up for Fiverr. Offer whatever skills you have. Now, there are a ton of tutorials on this. If, for some reason you don’t have a skill, you can start watching YouTube videos. Learn Photoshop. Learn after effects. Learn how to code a website. Learn how to create a beautiful user interface. Whatever you can do to offer the world value. Then, sell that value on Fiverr. You make most of your money on Fiverr, not by selling a five dollar product, but by the upsells, selling more expensive upgrades.

My last recommendation for beginners is to buy my eBook in the link below. Now, of course I will be earning money on this, but hopefully I’ve added enough value in the eBook that you will earn way more money back. The first third of the eBook, is actually going through my mistakes, and what kind of mistakes you guys can skip in the future, so that you can make money online quicker. Basically it’ll help you jumpstart your online income career, if that’s what you wanna do. If you think this video has given you any value, just go ahead and buy the eBook, and you’ll be completely blown away. Like I said earlier, there was one month where I literally did nothing, but read books, but I still earned around 4,000 dollars that month. I did that to prove that I could earn passive income. I hope you guys enjoyed this video. I hope you got insane value out of it. If you did, share this video with your friends. Click the like button, and subscribe if you want more.

How to make passive income online

How to Make Passive Income Online – Passive Income Ideas and Methods

What is passive income? For this video, we mean a cash flow that gets deposited into your bank account, PayPal, or check, that you get every month, or week, or whatever, without having to do much after you set up the system. This article is going to be basically everything I teach in my Passive Income video on my Youtube channel.

You have to understand that it’s not a, “Sign up here and get $500 into your account every month.” It’s a, “Put the work in now by leveraging your time, knowledge, and resources, to earn freedom later.” For example, I spent probably an entire day working on the most viewed video on my channel. That video has earned me over $10,000 since it was posted. So, you could say I made my time worth around $1,000 an hour, and each day that number goes up. Watch this video for a better explanation:

There are many reasons to search and work for passive income, but most of it is for freedom in the future. The point I’m trying to get across is that, you’re going to have to put in at least some work in the beginning.

To put it in perspective, I earned roughly a quarter an hour of my time for the first eight months of Practical Psychology. But last month I didn’t work at all, and I still got a paycheck. I’ll show you how much I earned later on in the video.

You must understand the major different between two types of content. The first is called ‘skyscraper’, and that is because the traffic, the interest, and also the money graph, look like a skyscraper. A whole bunch of views, and traffic, and money for a couple days, and then it dies down to just a couple pennies.

An example of skyscraper content would be the presidential inauguration in 2017. It’s not going to be something someone is searching for 30 to 40 years from now, as much as they’re going to be searching how to get more Instagram followers; how to make more money; how do mosquitoes mate? People will be asking questions like that for ages.

The second type of content is called ‘evergreen’, and just like the tree, it stays fresh and valuable all year long. For example, my How to Get More YouTube Subscribers videos will get views, and add value to lives, for at least the next five years. While my friend’s video of him doing a rare bottle flip, won’t. Just like the Harlem shake died down, so will bottle flips, and the next trends.

You can make money with these kinds of trends, but you have to be able to predict them. The downside is, the income won’t be sustainable, it’ll be a lump sum.

Evergreen content, on the other hand, brings you in money every day, every week, every year, for the rest of your life. I’ll talk a little bit on how to create evergreen content in a minute, but if you want to know everything I know about it, check out my eBook on Amazon.

I recently wrote a Kindle eBook, and published it on Amazon. The first chapter is my failures and successes. Everything I’ve learned since I’ve tried to make money online, from the young age of 13 years old. My failed websites, and the traits of the ones that were successful. Also what I learned from my first profitable YouTube channel … it still earns me $60 month. And how I scaled it up to this channel.

You’ll also learn how much I make through different ad platforms and affiliate services, and how I got free stuff by emailing companies about influencer marketing. I’ll be telling you my numbers from different companies, and show you how you can do the same.

In this eBook, you’ll also learn about my YouTube algorithm hacks. I’ll give you a short version of the best in a couple of minutes, but I have a video dedicated to that in the playlist.

Here’s how to get the eBook. Go to Amazon and search Passive Income, and find this eBook. It’s written by a Practical Psychology, so that’s how you know it’s mine.

To add to the merit of what I’ve earned, I want to prove that I’ve earned over $4,000 in March, and got over 60,000 subscribers, and I didn’t do anything to the channel. In reality, I was working really hard to have more uploads in April. But in March, I didn’t upload a single video, I hardly replied to any of the comments. I did read them, but I didn’t really do much input, and my output stayed the same.

Like is said, in reality I was working hard to have more uploads in April, but I easily could have been on a beach in Rio, like Charley from Charisma on Command.

Another thing I want to talk about is 10beasts.com. This is website where the creator, his name is Luqman Khan, created an Amazon affiliate site, and has earned over $5,000 in the first four months, and over $40,000 in eight months. I figured I’d share his story here with you guys, and show what’s actually possible.

The website is a list website, where people search for terms like ‘best wireless router’ or ‘best wireless router 2017′ and click on his site. Then when they click on his site, they get a picture of a whole bunch of different routers, and when they click on that picture, they’re sent to the Amazon website. Basically, he is an affiliate marketer. The trick here is to get your website to the top of search engines for high volume search terms like best wireless router. You know how many people search that a year? How many people search that a day? I bet he gets tons of traffic.

This is where my analytical nature gets kind of horny and I have to sort through a whole bunch of data to find how I can simplify it, and tell you guys what you need to know. Basically, he wrote articles that were at least 3, 4, 5,000 words long, so it’s super long content, along with getting amazing back links from high authority websites, and educational websites. He actually hosted a $1,000 scholarship, and sent an email to a ton of universities and colleges to get a lot of .edu … which stands for educational … websites to link to his scholarship page, which was hosted on his 10Beasts page.

Google loves it when an educational website links to your site. Eventually his website was viewed as very valuable in Google’s eyes. This scholarship method was a great idea, along with getting bank links from Buzzfeed, Lifehack, and reviews.org.

Try to post content that is super long, and has references from other websites. That will get you to the top of search engines. But that’s not all, Google also likes it when users stay on a website. Do they stay for 30 seconds, or do they read the full article for eight minutes? They also love it when a user shares an article or page. Facebook, Twitter, Google+, Pinterest pins, all of these are trackable, and Google uses them.

In the eBook I wrote, I will teach you how to set up a simple WordPress website, along with a few more SEO tips and tricks to boost your rankings.

Another person in the passive income field to look up to is Pat Flynn, with his smart passive income website. Through a whole bunch of his channels and stuff that he does, websites, audiobooks, podcasts, he has made over $103,000 in February 2017. He documented most of it with his niche and authority websites. He knows a ton about SEO and affiliate marketing, and actually has a website and podcast dedicated to teaching you.

I’m not going to talk much more about this. You can go to him, or there’s other websites you can go out to. There’s actually an interview with him in the playlist. I recommend watching it to learn some of the stuff that he has to teach.

Anyway, we’ve been on this topic for too long, so let’s talk a little bit about YouTube. I’m going to give you some of the best YouTube tips I currently know, without wasting much of your time. If you want to know everything I know, go watch the over 10 minute long algorithm video in the playlist, that I made. Or read the detailed chapter in my eBook.

The first tip is to make better titles and thumbnails. Make them actually want to be clicked on. Take a look at these two channels. Which one would you watch more of? If you have to, split test some thumbnails and titles with your friends. Show them two or three pictures, or two or three titles, and say, “Which one would you click on first?”

Eventually you’ll get the hang of creating clickbait images, that are still relevant. Clickbait is okay, you have to create a thumbnail that grabs attention in this super noisy world. What’s not okay is misleading people. Understand the difference, and execute.

Another tip is, watch length is better than percentage. It took me a while to learn this, but let’s say I have two YouTube videos. The first one is five minutes long, and the other is 50 minutes long. Which one does YouTube like better?

It really depends on how much the average person watches. If the first person watches an average of five minutes, leading to a total of 100% of the video viewed. It will not do as well as the second video, where the average viewer watches an average of 10 minutes, even though the percentage of the video watched is only 20%. The second video held a viewer’s attention for twice the time, and that’s what YouTube really cares about. It’s the total time, not the percentage.

Another little tip I recently found out, is to send them to a great channel, you’ll know that they will binge watch and subscribe. Your video will get the points for this, but it also will not get a session end penalty. One of my best videos earned over 3,000,000 views in a week, simply because I recommended people to go watch Improvement Pill, and other videos on his channel.

This guy has some amazing content, he just didn’t have an audience. What I did is, I sent people to his channel, they binge watched a whole bunch of his videos, subscribed. In YouTube’s eyes, that video, the one that I sent them from, looked like a very profitable video, so they promoted it, and recommend it. To learn more about this, and session penalties, check out Derrel Eves’ hour long video on Channel Growth in the playlist.

Also, I recently found out you can make semi-passive income through Instagram. Just get up to around 100,000 followers, and then you can do shout outs for other people, and they will pay you. Each shout out could be from $5 to $100, some people do $500 shout outs. Actually, a friend of mine does over $5,000 each month, just by managing an account that has over 1.5 million followers.

At first that might seem like a lot of people, like, “Wow. One and a half million people?” But for a college student, $5,000 is a lot of money, and it’s worth the initial time. He actually did this in under a year. He started by spending some money on other accounts, asking them to give him a shout out. Eventually he had enough of his own following, that he started returning the favors. He started getting money to give people shout outs.

Every once in a while he’ll give me a shout out, because I help him with some of his YouTube videos. Every time he shouts me out he gives me a little, “Hey. Go check out this guy’s profile. It’s pretty cool.” I get at least 500 new Instagram followers. Shout outs are the way to gain followers, and to make money.

Improvement Pill actually had an interview with this guy, and his process. I’ll put that in the playlist also.

Now we’re on to the list of 10 income generating asset ideas that you can set up now, for a steady cash flow in the future. Keep in mind, all of these are basic ideas, and you have to add your own twists to them to make them stand out. For most of these, it will help if you already have a following, a group of people who are dedicated to the content that you make.

I explain how to do this in the eBook. The last two chapters are How to Get a Following, and How to Monetize a Following. Either way, as long as you are creating evergreen content that is worth reading, watching, or signing up, you will grow your following.

The first one is affiliate marketing. This would be like Amazon, Clickbank, Commission Junction, there’s a whole bunch of them out there. Basically, you send someone somewhere else to pay for something. You get a commission of that, from 3% to 7%, I’ve seen all the way up to 80%. It’s pretty easy, you just have to recommend great products, that will sell themselves. That’s the trick.

Number 2 is digital products. I experimented a little bit with this on Sellfy. You can actually make money by selling high quality backgrounds, templates, songs. Some people are actually willing to pay $20 to get my background music. Isn’t that pretty awesome? If I could do that 100 times, there’s two grand right there.

Number 3 is YouTube views. YouTube views takes a little bit to set up, and their algorithm is a little … You have to understand it for this to work. But there will always be that knowledge curve, in order to make passive income. You have to know a little bit about the situation that you’re going to be putting yourself in.

For YouTube, you could into gaming. For evergreen content on gaming, people don’t watch gaming for the games. For evergreen content, they watch for the personality of the guy that is playing the game, or girl, that is playing the games.

Other YouTube videos would be how to videos. These are usually evergreen. How to replace a tire on this car; how to change the oil; how to tie a tie. Also, makeup is pretty evergreen.  Most of these are also, already saturated. You have to find a niche that is not already saturated, and fill that. Fill that gap where people are searching for stuff, but there isn’t much content.

Idea number four is website ad revenue. You could set up a WordPress website. I explain how to in the eBook. Fill it with banner ads, or ad sends, or affiliate links.

Number five is eBooks, that you can sell on Kindle. I’m actually going to report how much I have earned from this eBook in the future. If you want to give back to me for any of the videos that have ever been helpful to you, I recommend to buy this eBook. This is the best way that you can give back to me.

And leave a review. I am super interested in the review of something that I have written. I have never written an eBook like this before, and I would love reviews. They help me out so much, know where I can improve, what I shouldn’t do, and where I can go from the future, to make better content for you guys.

Number six is Instagram shout outs. We mentioned this before, and there’s actually a lot more to it, so I recommend you watching that video in the playlist.

Number seven is a social media agency. This is semi-passive, because you still have to produce content for other companies. Basically you do Facebook ads for local companies, as long as you know how to do it right.

You can become a Tai Lopez minion, and sign up for his course. A lot of people dog on him, he really does have a lot of great advice, just not everyone will be able to become a social media agency gazillionaire.

Number eight is subscription box service. This one is a little bit … You have to take some time to set it up. You will have to hire people, or set up drop shipping. There’s a little bit more legal stuff in here, because you’re actually paying for a service or a product. I’ll explain a little bit more of this in my book.

Number nine is online courses on Udemy, or other various ‘sign up for a course’ website. Basically, you spend a weekend creating How to Play a Guitar, or How to Make YouTube Videos, or How to Solve a Rubik’s Cube. Then you put it on Udemy, and people pay for that, $20, $30, $100. Every time they pay for that, you get a percentage. It only took that weekend to do it, but for the rest of your life you will be making money.

The last one is Patreon, and Patreon works best if your content isn’t very monetizable. But you have a large, or a very dedicated, small fan base, that is willing to give you money so that you can keep creating the content that you are creating.

If you want another 10 ideas, check out this video by Roberto Blake about passive income online.

Don’t forget to search passive income on Amazon, and buy my book. Then leave a review of it, if it was helpful, because reviews are super helpful to me, and future readers. It’s the only way that I can improve.

Thank you guys so much for all the support. I hope I added value to your life in this video, and my other videos. Subscribe if you want more.

Benefits of Journaling and How To Do It

Journaling is one of the most popular suggestions from mental health professionals for individuals who are struggling with their mental state in some way. It’s also useful for people who just need an outlet to express themselves or who want a way to develop themselves emotionally. The simple act of writing in a journal daily can benefit you significantly and in a variety of ways.

Exploring the things that are troubling you on paper helps to relieve the stress they’re causing. Journals are the perfect place to vent because you can write every thought you’re having without being interrupted, without the risk of your feelings being overheard by the wrong person, and without someone telling you your perspective is wrong. You’re totally free to get all your frustration out onto the page using whatever words you want, and once it’s out, it’s easier to let it go and move on. You’ll feel lighter and calmer after spilling all your thoughts onto the pages. Being able to release some of the stress you’re feeling is a huge benefit of keeping a journal.

Journaling is also great for problem solving. When you’ve run into a dilemma or some kind of conflict, it’s natural to dwell on trying to find a solution. Thinking about how to deal with a problem is often done from a left-brained perspective; we intellectually analyze the situation to figure out what can be done to change it. But that doesn’t always result in a good solution; journaling about the problem helps you see the issue from a more right-brained perspective. That means you can use more emotional and intuitive thought processes to find a creative resolution instead.

Writing about the situation during time dedicated to doing just that also allows you to fully explore how you’re feeling. Even when you’re very clearly upset, you may not know the full scope of it. Something specific has set you off, but there could be other sources of stress lurking under the surface that intensified your emotions. As you write how you’re feeling and the associated thoughts, you can uncover things that you didn’t realize were bothering you, things that help explain why you’re so upset despite the trigger seeming minor. You can then explore those underlying issues, organize the feelings they’ve brought up, and work through them. It can result in greater emotional stability over time and help you develop the ability to overcome negative emotions quicker and more effectively. Journaling through your pain helps you heal from it, whether it’s fresh or something you’ve been carrying for years.

As you write your thoughts, you may find that the activity reveals things about yourself that you hadn’t realized before. You could realize that you’re harbouring resentment for someone, that you have a tendency to react a certain way in difficult situations, or that you need a lot of time to yourself to feel really happy. In opening yourself up to your journal, you open yourself up to yourself. It’s creates an opportunity for you to learn about yourself in a way you probably wouldn’t have without delving into your thoughts and examining them as they appear. And when you learn about yourself, you can consciously develop in a direction of your choosing. You and your life begin to change because you’ve identified where you want to improve yourself and which parts of your life you’d prefer to be another way. Journaling takes you down a road that allows you to grow, if you choose to.

These aren’t the only benefits, but are some very significant ones. And they sound great, don’t they? If they appeal to you, journaling is probably a great activity for you to get into. But what does a session of journaling involve? How do you do it? There are no set rules when it comes to writing in a journal, but here’s a good method to start with if you need some guidance.

Making the commitment to start journaling is the first step. Forming a new habit can be tough, but if you set aside a bit of time every day, it makes starting out a bit easier. Aim for ten to fifteen minutes per day, but if that sounds like a lot, go with just five minutes at first to take the pressure off. You don’t want to intimidate yourself before you’ve started. It can be helpful to make it the same time every day when you’re working to make it part of your routine, but if something comes up and you want to write at a different time, that’s totally fine too. When you’re ready, sit down with your book in a quiet space where you can focus effectively and where you’ll feel comfortable being vulnerable, since you’ll be opening up when you write. And remember to date the entry—it’ll be handy if you ever decide to look back later.

Then, dig in. Write about whatever is on your mind. Write about anything that’s bothering you or has you stressed out. If you’re feeling good, write about what you’re looking forward to or what was great about your day. As useful as a journal is for examining hard times, it can be just as useful to look at the good times. Both will help you understand yourself and your experiences better. There are no restrictions on what you write about, so just go with what sticks out to you at the time you sit down. It might be something that feels huge or something that seems insignificant, but if you’re thinking about it, it’s worth journaling about. The good, the bad, and the ugly—include it all.

But journaling is more than just a record of events; writing about your situation is important, but don’t forget to write about how you feel and venture further in that direction. What emotions did your day bring out? Why did you feel that way? How did you handle the emotions and what can you do now to work through them? The emotional aspect is the main reason why journaling is so impactful. Simply making a log of the events in your life is great if you want to remember them and might be useful for examining a situation in more detail, but it’s the investigation of your personal, subjective thoughts and feelings that result in the mental health benefits. Don’t skip this step; it’s an important one.

Try to write quickly while you’re journaling. It’s not important that your spelling and grammar are perfect, that your handwriting looks good, or that you use creative phrasing; what is important is documenting your perspective honestly. When you think too much about what you’re writing, you might scrutinize and make unnecessary decisions about what might be better left out. When you write quickly, you’re more likely to let your thoughts flow naturally and let out everything you’re thinking and feeling. So write fast and get it all on the page before you have a chance to censor yourself or skew your true view.

When you’re finished, put your journal away and make sure it’s somewhere no one will find it. If you’re journaling in a word document, be sure to password protect the files or set them to hidden, and if you’re using an online blog, make it private and log out when you’re finished. Ensuring that your journal is secure is important, especially when it contains sensitive information that you don’t want anyone to see. It will also help you to feel comfortable being completely honest when you write if you’re sure no one will see it.

Some experts have suggested alternative ideas for journaling that can be useful in certain circumstances. Writing out an imaginary dialogue with your inner child can help you to work through longstanding issues or insecurities; drawing images or self-portraits can help creative thinkers to express the way they’re feeling in instances when words are failing them; writing in third person instead of first or in the form of a short story can help you acknowledge something bad that happened to you when you’re having a difficult time processing it or admitting that it occurred. Every person is different and some benefit from journaling in unconventional ways. Some people also like to include things like the songs that they really enjoyed that day or artwork that they saw and appreciated. These things can help express their current mood or mindset in a way that words can’t capture.

Journaling is an intensely personal experience and has the potential to benefit you in numerous ways. The outline provided here is just a starting point; as you get into journal writing, you might find that different methods are more beneficial for you, and that’s great. Whatever works for you is the right way to journal. After a while, look back at your first few entries; you might be surprised just how much you’ve changed.

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