Are you introverted or extraverted? This question comes up all the time when discussing personality types. People describe themselves as ENTJs, extroverted introverts, ambiverts - there’s a lot of ways that extraversion appears in memes, personality tests, and personality psychology.
Extraversion, (also spelled extroversion,) notably appears as a trait in two different approaches to personality type: the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and the Big Five Personality Theory. In this video, we will be focusing on extraversion as it relates to the Big Five Personality Theory. We will take a look at this specific theory, how extraversion fits into it, and whether or not you can become “more” extraverted.
About the Big Five
Let’s get started by talking about the Big Five Personality Theory. You won’t be hearing about ENTPs or ISFJs when talking about the Big Five. The Big Five is a set of five dimensions of personality that can be used to assess and describe the personality of anyone.
This theory is the most well-known and accepted theory in personality psychology today, but it’s certainly not the first (and probably won’t be the last!) In the past, psychologists have tried to identify a number of traits that could be used to universally describe personality. As many as 4,000 traits were identified at one point. As little as three were also used in popular theories. (Extraversion was one of these three traits - the other two were neuroticism and psychoticism.) Around the 1980s, personality psychologists settled on “the Big Five.” The big five, better known by their acronyms OCEAN or CANOE, are:
- Openness to experience
These traits exist on a spectrum between two extremes. You may someone who is incredibly neurotic and someone who is the exact opposite. They still have a personality, but just exist on different sides of said spectrum.
Personality psychologists describe someone as having a “high level” of each trait or a “low level” of each trait. Based on where the person sits on that spectrum, they are more likely to display certain behaviors or approach the world in different ways.
What is Extraversion?
Extraversion looks at how social and talkative a person is. The way a person gathers energy, appreciates attention, and asserts themselves in social situations determines whether or not they are an extrovert. On the other side of the spectrum is an introvert.
People with high extraversion are likely the life of the party. They gain energy by being around big groups of people and socializing with others. This person isn’t just hanging out with their friends - they seek out socialization with strangers. Talking to new people is very comfortable for them, whether they’re on a bus, at a music festival, or in a new class.
In group settings, people with high extraversion like the attention to be on them. They don’t mind taking charge and leading the way. They enjoy putting on events, being the person speaking for a group project, or facilitating conversations in a group chat. Tour guides, hosts, and salespeople usually display high levels of extraversion.
People with high extraversion are also likely described as cheerful, enthusiastic, or excited about life. These people seek out social gatherings and are the most eager person to participate. If you have a friend who is always looking for a new festival to attend or putting together weekends at the beach, they are likely the most extroverted person in your friend group.
One last common behavior among people with high extraversion is that they don’t always think before they speak. They are so talkative that they might talk just for the sake of talking! There is so much that they want to say that they don’t always have time to choose their words too carefully.
On the other side of the spectrum, we have “introverts.” People with low extraversion are not going to be refueled by large social gatherings. In fact, they may be completely overwhelmed by them. Music festivals, conferences, and big parties are so exhausting. Instead, a person with low extraversion may regain their energy by staying in, hanging out with a small group of trusted friends, or exploring different hobbies.
People with low extraversion aren’t very talkative. Small talk isn’t fun for them, and they don’t always know what to say when they’re in social situations. They’d rather wait for someone else to lead the group or lead the conversation. When attention is on them, they begin to feel uncomfortable or even anxious.
This means that unlike a person with high extraversion, introverts are more likely to think before they speak. They plan out their words carefully and don’t just say the first thing that comes to mind.
Are You Extroverted?
You might already call yourself an extravert or an introvert. If you’re not sure, take a look at the following statements and see if you agree:
- My ideal weekend is surrounded by friends and family.
- I don’t feel uncomfortable when I need to take charge of a situation.
- People say that I’m the life of the party!
- When things get out of control, I’m likely to take control.
- I find new people interesting and exciting.
- I fill my days with tons of activities.
- I am the most cheerful person in my group of friends!
- Large friend groups are more fulfilling than a tight-knit circle.
- I would rather host a party than attend a party.
- I never run out of stories to tell.
If you agree with most of these, then you probably have a high level of extraversion.
Remember that this is a spectrum and there is a lot of room for variation. A person may consider themselves an extrovert because they feel energized around a large group of people, but they may not be the most talkative person in the room or prefer to surround themselves with a large group of people that they already know. A person with low extraversion may still speak without thinking. Many people identify themselves as an “ambivert,” or someone who has a mix of qualities that we associate with high and low extraversion.
Are These Personality Traits Fixed?
Maybe you do want to become more of an extrovert. You have friends that love big social gatherings and you want to get as much out of these gatherings as other people. But are you doomed to be an introvert? Are you doomed to need to be around people all the time, not able to sit still at home?
The answer isn’t exactly yes and it isn’t exactly no. Psychologists have debated for centuries about the role that genetics and the environment (also known as nature and nurture) play in our personalities, behaviors, and decisions. Studies have given us a glimpse into the “right” answer, but it appears that the “right” answer is that a combination of genetics and external factors mold our personality.
Psychologists estimate that genetics have a 50-60% influence on extraversion. That gives people a lot of room to be influenced by their parents, the culture where they grew up, or experiences that may shape whether they feel comfortable around large groups of people. A person who lost their parents in a crowd at a music festival as a young child is less likely to enjoy big crowds than a person who never went through that type of trauma. People who have generally had positive experiences leading groups or meeting strangers may lean toward extraversion. The answer isn’t cut and dry.
How to Become More Extroverted
If you are looking to become more comfortable around strangers or large groups, it may be worth continuing this self-study into your personality and the experiences that have shaped you. The discomfort you may feel at parties or as the center of attention may not just be a preference - it could be a form of social or generalized anxiety. It may also just be a preference that you may need to explore. Assess how you feel when thinking about large groups. Are you exhausted or anxious? Not excited or very uncomfortable? The answer may lead you to try new things one step at a time or reaching out to a mental health professional for a deeper look into what experiences may have shaped your feelings.