In a perfect world, dating would be as easy as being on The Bachelor. You have 30 women all wanting to date you, and all you have to do is go on dates and choose the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with and marry. But dating isn’t that easy. If you’re here, it’s probably because a woman dumped you or hasn’t been texting you back…and you want to make this girl miss you.
Making someone miss you is not as easy as snapping your fingers, writing the perfect Instagram post, or sending the perfect text. Developing feelings of longing can’t even be done overnight, either! Let’s say you’re determined to change a woman’s mind about you. What can you do in the meantime? How can you make yourself more appealing to this girl and other women so dating is a little more like The Bachelor?
The simple answer is: work on yourself. That’s probably not the answer you were looking for, but there are ways that you can work on yourself that will make more women go crazy for you!
You Can’t Make Anyone Feel Anything
Before you read on, remind yourself that you can’t make another person feel anything. Plenty of factors go into whether someone is attracted to, feels chemistry with, or wants to pursue a relationship with another person. Most of those factors are outside of your control. The advice below will focus on what you can control, including how you spend your time and how you express yourself online and in person.
1) Don’t Ask Desperate
What’s one way to turn a girl off? Desperation. Women don’t want to feel like they’re dating a man who is desperate. Women want to feel like a prize to be won, not the only woman around who is willing to date a desperate man. So don’t beg, don’t plead, and don’t barrage her with texts asking her why she’s not texting you back or why she’s not interested anymore. A woman can’t miss a man when she’s feeling suffocated by him.
The only exception to this is if a woman broke up with you because you didn’t seem to be putting enough effort into your relationship. In this case, walking away entirely and cutting off all communication is not going to win her back. Desperation is still not the answer. Begging and pleading without taking any action is not going to convince a woman that she should date you again. But if she wants to see more effort from you, make that effort. Only then is when you should be checking in more often and letting her know that you’re willing to put in the work that she was asking for all along.
2) Give Her Some Space
A woman can only miss you if you’re not around. So take a step back! Give her some space, whether that is physically or in the digital world. Step back from texting, from commenting on her social media, or from seeing her at her local hotspots. If you’re trying to make a girl in your friend group miss you, don’t avoid her altogether, but just take a step back. Give her some room to wonder what you’re up to or what you’re doing.
3) Be Mysterious Online
Don’t forget to give her some space online, too! Be mysterious with your content. If you’re posting a lot, the girl you’re interested in will have enough opportunities to see how you’re doing. If she’s thinking about you, she will head to your pages, get her answers, and move on. Keep posting to a minimum and more people – including the girl you’re interested in – will miss you!
If you do want to post on social media, stay positive. You may want to express feelings of loneliness, sadness, or frustration, but leave that for a physical journal. Women do not want to see a social media page flooded with negative emotions. People are not likely to reach out to help unless you reach out to them individually. Keep your content positive and people will feel more positive when they think about you!
4) Go on Dates With Someone Else!
Want to get your mind off of someone? Go on a date with someone else! A woman is more likely to be intrigued by a man who is actively dating. If you’re gaining the attention of other women, the girl you’re interested in may take a second look at you.
So go on dates with someone else! Enjoy some casual outings and take the time to get to know someone new. Maybe the next woman you go on a date with isn’t the one you’ll spend the rest of your life with. That’s okay. Every date is an opportunity to grab a nice drink or meal, have a conversation with someone new, or have a nice time. What can you learn from the next person you go on a date with? How can this serve as practice for your dating life in general? Dating should be fun, but a lot of the results depend on your perspective and what you take away from each date. If you see dating as an opportunity to have an interesting conversation or at least walk away with a funny story, you’ll have more fun dating. If dating is just for meeting the woman of your dreams, you’re more likely to be disappointed when the woman across the table isn’t her.
5) Find Other Ways to Spend Your Time
The more time you are sitting thinking about this girl, the more opportunities you will give yourself to act out of desperation. Find other ways to spend your time. Before you know it, weeks will have passed and this girl will be wondering why you haven’t reached out. Plus, you will likely have a lot of other things to show for your time. Distracting yourself is truly a win-win!
Do Some Work On Yourself
Personal development will benefit you way beyond one relationship or fling. Through different avenues of personal development, you can explore the inner workings of your mind, build new skills, and approach future relationships with more maturity and foresight. Although therapy or counseling can contribute to your personal development, there are many other approaches to personal development that you can try:
- Reading inspirational books
- Taking a course on limiting beliefs
- Attending a support group or group therapy
- Working with a life coach
- Attending a religious service
- Talking to wise family and friends
As you try these different approaches, find ways to record what you are learning about yourself and the world. Remember, these lessons are not always uncomfortable. You may discover things about yourself that you want to improve upon. Look at these lessons as an opportunity to come out of your personal development journey as a better, more successful version of yourself.
Develop a Hobby
Don’t want to look inward? Look outward. There are plenty of hobbies and projects that can distract you from your relationships. Give yourself a goal to accomplish by the end of the week or the end of the month. Put all your free time into that goal. You will be amazed at what you can produce or how much you will enjoy your time.
You can really make anything a hobby, but here are some suggestions:
- Indoor or outdoor climbing
- Building models
- Sewing or knitting (why not, right?)
- Blogging or YouTubing
- Writing short stories
- Planning a vacation
- Learning a new language
6) Be A Good Listener
Being a good listener is a critical aspect of developing a strong connection with someone and making her miss you when you’re not around. Active listening not only shows that you genuinely care about her thoughts and feelings but also helps her feel valued and understood. When you’re not together, she’ll miss the emotional support and the sense of being truly heard that you provide.
To be a good listener, make sure to give her your full attention during conversations, avoiding distractions like your phone or TV. Maintain eye contact, nod, and use verbal affirmations such as “I see” or “I understand” to show that you’re engaged. Ask open-ended questions to encourage her to share more, and try to empathize with her emotions and experiences. For example, if she’s talking about a difficult day at work, you could say, “That sounds really challenging. How did you handle that situation?” By doing so, you’re demonstrating that you’re genuinely interested in her experiences and emotions.
When you’re apart, she’ll remember the unique connection you share and how you made her feel seen and understood, which will make her miss you. By being a good listener, you’re fostering a deep bond that is both rare and valuable, making her look forward to spending more time with you and creating a lasting, genuine connection.
Creating memorable experiences is a powerful way to make her miss you when you’re apart. By sharing unique moments and adventures, you’re not only building a stronger bond but also giving her special memories that she’ll cherish and think about when you’re not around. The more positive and memorable experiences you share, the more she’ll associate you with joy, excitement, and happiness, which will make her long for your company.
To create memorable experiences, focus on planning activities that are enjoyable and meaningful to both of you. It could be as simple as taking a scenic hike, trying a new restaurant, or attending a concert of your favorite band.
You can also explore new places together, like taking a weekend trip to a nearby town or going on a vacation to an exotic destination. Engage in activities that encourage conversation and bonding, such as cooking a meal together or participating in a workshop or class. For example, you could sign up for a dance class or a pottery workshop, creating a shared experience that allows you to learn and grow together.
By making an effort to create memorable experiences, you’re showing her that you value the time you spend together and are committed to keeping the relationship fresh and exciting. When you’re apart, she’ll be reminded of the good times you’ve had and will eagerly anticipate the next adventure you’ll share. This emotional connection will make her miss you and strengthen your bond in the long run.
8) Show Interest
Showing genuine interest in her life, thoughts, and feelings is a key aspect of building a strong connection and making her miss you when you’re not around. By demonstrating that you care about her experiences and emotions, you create a sense of trust and intimacy that is essential for a healthy, long-lasting relationship. When you’re apart, she’ll remember the emotional support and understanding you provide, which will make her long for your company.
To show interest in her, ask thoughtful questions about her day, her interests, and her aspirations. Be curious about her hobbies, work, or family life, and actively engage in conversations about these topics.
For example, if she’s passionate about photography, ask her about her favorite subjects to shoot, the equipment she uses, and if she has any upcoming projects or goals. When she shares something important or exciting with you, celebrate her achievements and encourage her to pursue her dreams. Moreover, pay attention to the small details in her stories, as this will demonstrate that you truly listen and care about what she has to say.
By showing genuine interest in her life, you create an environment where she feels valued and appreciated. This emotional connection will make her miss you when you’re apart, as she’ll long for the understanding and support that you provide. Investing time and effort in getting to know her on a deeper level will help you forge a strong, authentic bond that can stand the test of time.
9) Be Patient
Being patient is an essential quality for building a strong, lasting relationship and making her miss you when you’re not around. Patience shows that you respect her feelings and boundaries and are willing to give her the time and space she needs to feel comfortable in your connection. Demonstrating patience also helps create a sense of security and trust, as she’ll know that you’re not trying to rush or pressure her into anything.
For example, if she’s going through a difficult time or needs space to process her emotions, give her the time she needs without pushing for immediate answers or resolutions. Instead, let her know that you’re there for her and willing to wait until she’s ready to talk or move forward. Similarly, when it comes to making decisions about your relationship, be patient and understanding of her thoughts and concerns, allowing for open communication and collaboration.
10) Give Her Gifts
Giving her thoughtful gifts is a wonderful way to show your affection and make her miss you when you’re not around. These gifts don’t have to be extravagant or expensive; it’s the thought and effort you put into selecting or creating something special that truly counts.
When choosing a gift, consider her interests, hobbies, and preferences to show that you’ve paid attention and know what she likes. For example, you could surprise her with a book by her favorite author, a custom piece of jewelry that reflects her style, or even a handwritten letter expressing your feelings.
11) Be Unpredictable
Being unpredictable, on the other hand, adds excitement and intrigue to your relationship, which can make her miss you and look forward to your next interaction. By keeping her guessing and occasionally surprising her with spontaneous plans or gestures, you create a sense of anticipation and show that you’re willing to put in the effort to keep the relationship fresh and exciting.
For instance, you could surprise her with a weekend getaway to a nearby town, a romantic picnic in the park, or tickets to an event she’s been eager to attend. By mixing up your routine and incorporating unexpected surprises, you’ll keep her on her toes and make her miss the excitement and joy you bring to her life.
12) Be Kind To Her Friends
Being kind to her friends is a powerful way to make a positive impression on her and ensure that she misses you when you’re not around. Her friends are important to her, and by treating them with respect and kindness, you show that you value her social circle and understand its significance in her life.
When you’re apart, she’ll remember how well you integrated into her world and how much her friends enjoyed your company, making her long for your presence.
To be kind to her friends, make an effort to engage with them in conversation, show genuine interest in their lives, and listen actively when they speak. Offer help when needed and be a supportive presence at social gatherings or events.
For example, if you’re attending a party together, make an effort to talk to her friends and engage in group activities, even if it’s outside of your comfort zone. By showing kindness and respect to her friends, you’ll create a positive atmosphere and a strong foundation for your relationship, making her miss the warmth and camaraderie you bring when you’re not together.
13) Encourage Her Independence
Encouraging her independence is a vital aspect of building a healthy relationship and making her miss you when you’re apart. By supporting her autonomy, you demonstrate that you respect her individuality and trust her to make her own decisions. This fosters a sense of security and self-confidence, making her value the time you spend together even more.
For example, if she wants to pursue a new hobby or spend time with her friends, be supportive and understanding, even if it means spending less time together. By doing so, you create a balanced relationship where both partners can grow and thrive individually, making her miss the emotional support and respect you provide.
14) Encourage Her Self Growth
Encouraging her self-growth is another essential component of making her miss you. By supporting her personal development and encouraging her to be the best version of herself, you become an invaluable source of inspiration and motivation in her life. Help her set and achieve her goals, whether they are related to her career, hobbies, or personal well-being.
Offer constructive feedback and be a sounding board for her ideas, while also celebrating her successes and achievements. For example, if she’s working on a personal project, offer to brainstorm ideas together or provide resources to help her succeed. By being an active participant in her journey of self-growth, you create a deep bond that she’ll miss when you’re not around, as she’ll long for the emotional support and guidance you provide.
Explore Your Attachment Style
If you still have lingering questions about relationships, consider exploring your attachment style. Attachment styles are a phenomenon in psychology that explain how people form attachments to people both as children and adults. Our attachment style forms with our primary caregivers, but it can influence the way we choose romantic partners as adults. This may sound strange, and it is. But psychologists have studied attachment styles for decades and have found they can inform people regarding their relationships and how to “pick” better partners.
This free test can be the springboard for learning about your attachment style.
Quotes About Being Single For Men
- “I never found a companion that was so companionable as solitude.” – Henry David Thoreau
- “I think it’s very healthy to spend time alone. You need to know how to be alone and not defined by another person.” – Oscar Wilde
- “Be with someone who won’t stay mad at you, who can’t stand not talking to you, and who’s afraid of losing you.” -Drake
- “Falling in love is terrible. It makes you act foolish, like an idiot.” – Lemmy
- “I celebrate myself, and sing myself.” – Walt Whitman
- “People would be a lot better off if they’d enjoy being single.” – Lewis Black
- “Single? No, I’m just in a relationship with freedom.” – Anonymous
- “Being single doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re strong enough to wait for what you deserve.” – Niall Horan
- “I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is ending up with people who make you feel all alone.” – Robin Williams
- “Being single doesn’t necessarily mean you’re available. Sometimes you have to put up a sign that says ‘Do Not Disturb’ on your heart.” – Wiz Khalifa
- “If we seek paradise outside ourselves, we cannot have paradise in our hearts.” – Thomas Merton
- “Being single is pretty good. It’s a nice sense of irresponsibility.” – Michael Douglas
- “There’s a huge difference between feeling lonely and being alone.” – Steven Aitchison
- “There’s a big difference between falling in love and being in love. There’s a big difference between infatuation and falling in love.” – Phil McGraw
- “Dating is just awkward moments and one person wants more than the other. It’s just that constant strangeness. I think it’s a very real thing.”—- Jason Schwartzman
- “Dating is pressure and tension. What is a date, really, but a job interview that lasts all night?” — Jerry Seinfeld