10 Qualities That Make Her Wifey Material: The Secret to Getting a Good Woman

Trust, honesty, love, smoking body, great with kids and my friends, likes to travel, and more like this are on my list with qualities that make her wifey material. What’s on yours?

There comes a time when most men want to settle down and build a home with a good woman. But it seems more and more difficult to find a woman that hits all the points on our lists. The truth is we’re not looking hard enough. After all, most good women don’t usually hang out at the bar every night, and they don’t get noticed easily.

It also matters the level of your expectations. If on your list of qualities that make her wifey material you have “looking like a goddess”, “cooks like my mother”, and “reads extensively to expand her mind” you may never find such a woman. And if do you find her, she may not find you interesting enough.

However, there are some important qualities that make her wifey material. Below I listed the most common ones and I leave it to you, to look for the ones that make her unique to you.

#1: She Knows how to Handle Life

When you’re dating and having fun, you may appreciate a damsel in distress who needs you to rescue her. Still, this feature is not something you should look for in a wife.

When you’re looking to start a family with someone, you don’t want to be the one to bear all the responsibility. After all, marriage is a partnership and requires two people to make it work through thick and thin.

Look for a woman who can handle bad news and disappointment because there’s plenty of this in life. If she doesn’t know what she wants and she’s pouting when things don’t go her way, she’s not wifey material just yet.

#2: Physical Aspect Does Matter

Yes, beauty fades away, but you should be physically attracted to the woman next to you!

In the first stages of the relationship, physical beauty is the main element of attraction. However, you must make sure to not fixate on that. Physical beauty means good hygiene, physical fitness, and an inclination towards looking the best she can be. It does not mean looking for a supermodel!

The secret is to look for those features that make her attractive to you. For instance, if you like girls with long, flowy hair and a crooked smile, put this on your list.

#3: Inner Beauty & Personality

All human beings have two types of beauty: that of the body, and that of the soul (also known as inner beauty).

One of the must-have qualities that make her wifey material is a represented by inner beauty. Look for a woman who listens when you speak (doesn’t just nod along while thinking of latest trends in fashion) and is understanding.

She should be kind, decent, and generally have a good personality. Even if you don’t know her for that long, if you pay attention to the way she treats other people, you’ll know. For instance, was she nice with the waiter that served you on your first dinner date? She uses “please” and “thank you” when speaking to regular people?

Inner beauty is one of the most important traits in a woman you plan to marry because this is what will keep you going when you’re old and bored with each other!

 #4: She Sees You for You

Some women want a guy with money, some are looking for a six-pack, and some just want to be ravished in bed.

None of these women has the qualities that make her wifey material! They are lacking one important quality: they don’t want a real man; they just want parts of a man that will satisfy their needs.

The woman you’ll going to marry must see you for you and accept you as a whole, with both good qualities and flaws. Things like “I never liked how you sit at the table!” or “You promised me you’ll get better-looking” shouldn’t show up in any of your conversations.

Change is good, but it should happen naturally and because you welcome it. Not because your wife is constantly nagging you about it.

#5: She makes you a Better Man

The perfect relationship is when both partners have room to grow and develop their dreams.

Just because you get married it doesn’t mean your social and professional lives should end! A good woman will support your goals and work with you to achieve them. Of course, you will have to return the favor, but it shouldn’t be that hard when she is happy to support you.

A woman who gives up her comfort to give you room to pursue your career goals is definitely exhibiting strong wifey qualities!

#6: She Gets Along with the Ones You Love

The family is important, and it’s a part of our lives (whether we’re married or not).

So, you don’t want a woman who will constantly bitch about your sister, upset your mother, or fight with your father. Yes, mothers can be overprotective, but a wise, mature woman knows this. Of course, I’m not saying she should be a doormat for your family, but she should find middle ground by being patient and kind.

Out of respect for you, she should open her heart and life to your entire family.

#7: Common Values

Opposites attract, but do they stick together for long?   

I know it can be exciting to be with a woman who challenges you at all times, because she is different than you. But, as life moves on, you will get tired of her constantly challenging your authority and trying to overturn your ruling.

While it’s difficult to find a match made in Heaven, you should at least share the same core values. For instance, if you want lots of kids and a nice, cozy home, she should be on board with this goal. You can’t have a happy life if she wants to live in a penthouse in New York, sipping cosmos all day!

#8: The Financial Situation

This is a touchy subject, but it’s very important when you’re thinking about sharing your life with a woman!

Most great romance stories have women believe that when the right man comes along all their financial troubles will be over. We have lots of stories where he is rich and handsome and falls in love with the maid or the poor girl who has a million dollar smile, but this doesn’t usually fly in the real world.

One of the qualities that make her wifey material is a stable financial situation and a career that’s going somewhere. When kids come along or you want to buy a house, the financial burden shouldn’t fall just on your shoulders.

Not to mention that a woman with a good career has dreams and goals of her own. So she knows how important yours are.

If she has staggering financial debt that’s not backed up by a serious reason, you may be choosing a person who likes more to spend than to make money. This is a huge red flag, so be extremely careful about this!

#9: She Calls You on Your BS

Married life is not just milk and honey and you must make sure the person standing next to you is strong enough to call you on your BS when it matters. She should be able to point out when you’re making a life-altering mistake and you should be able to trust her advice.

For instance, if one day, you decide to sell the house and invest the money in an online ice-selling business, your wife should be the one to point out the flaws in your plan. She should be able to explain (calmly) why she doesn’t agree and where things could go wrong.

Of course, you should be able to call her on her BS without having to serve years in Hell for your gesture.  

#10: She’s Funny to Be With

We go through enough gloomy moments in life without making some for ourselves.

So, my last item on the list of qualities that make her wifey material is a fun disposition. You should be able to go to social events, enjoy evenings with your friends, and generally have a great time together.

But it’s not just about when you are going out; you should feel great in each other’s company and she should inspire good feelings in you with a nice, warm smile.

How great would it be if she’s smile at you while saying “Have a fantastic day, my darling! I can’t wait for us to see each other in the evening and do something fun together!”

In Conclusion

Of course, there are more qualities that her wifey material, but I love these because they are the foundation of a good life together. A good woman is one that comes with good personality, a desire to make the best out of her man, and a loving heart for him and his family!


Theodore created PracticalPsychology in his mother's basement after quitting university at age 19. From there, a dream was born to change lives by helping people understand how their brain works. By applying practical psychological principles to our lives, we can get a jumpstart on the path of self-improvement. 1,500,000 Youtube subscribers later, and that dream continues strong!

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